Written by Rhoberta Shaler

You have probably repeatedly heard, "Be all you can be!" How much is that? Do you have any idea? Do you have any idea of how much you want it to be?

Platitudes are great. We throw them out and we think we have said something of great and profound importance. You might think that you have just divulged your heartfelt philosophy. You likely have, however, without pinning down their meaning for you and clarifyingrepparttar actions you must take, they simply assuage your conscience. Ooooh! That might be hard to hear!

Let's start with my favorite book,repparttar 101824 dictionary. It says a platitude is 'the quality or state of being dull or insipid', and, 'a banal, trite or stale remark'. It's something said to staterepparttar 101825 obvious or appear knowledgeable. Something general enough for everyone to have heard and agree to with no call to action. Let's not let, "Be all you can be!" become a platitude.

You decide what it means to you. In marketing terms, that would be your positioning, your description of how you identify yourself. In 'Get What You Deserve', Jay Levinson, marketing guru, says, "You must choose a position you can live with, a position you can be proud of, a position you can deliver." Tall order! Are you ready?

Be all you can be! Let's not let it become a pressure either, some elusive statement that leaves you perpetually feeling 'not good enough'. What is it, then? It's a call to choose as well as to act.

Tips For Singles On Surviving (And Enjoying) The Holidays

Written by Toni Coleman LCSW


Here you are, facingrepparttar holiday season alone. Have you been thinking about?

*how alone and lonely you feel *excuses you can give family members as to why you can't come this year *what friends may be available to spend those long days with *how another year has passed and you are (still) single *how unfair it is that everyone else seems so happy and connected *how you will handlerepparttar 101823 office holiday party- single, take a friend, not attend *going to a far away (tropical?) place to escape it all *hiding out, alone, in your own home.

If these thoughts sound familiar it is probably time to reflect on your feelings regarding this holiday season. If your goal is to hide out and endure it alone, you won't need to do too much planning. However, if you wish to experience at least a measure ofrepparttar 101824 "peace and joy" associated with this time of year, you need to make and follow through with plans that allow you to participate in ways that are meaningful to YOU.

Remember, your senses are bombarded from October to December with music, images and Hallmark verses depictingrepparttar 101825 "right" experiences and expressions forrepparttar 101826 season. Remind yourself, every day if necessary, that there's nothing wrong with being single. You haverepparttar 101827 same need and right to enjoy this season as any couple or family does. How you choose to do this is up to you. After you have done some serious reflection, considerrepparttar 101828 following list of 10 holiday tips designed especially for singles.

1. Don't make plans out of a sense of obligation. This is also your holiday season. Set limits, make good choices and enjoy. You may ask yourself; "do I really want to go out"? If so, make your next question something like; "does it sound like something I would enjoy or be interested in?" Or, "will I have repparttar 101829 opportunity to meet and mix with other singles?"

2. Avoid unrealistic expectations from others, from yourself and fromrepparttar 101830 holidays themselves. Relax, enjoy and don't expect so much that you will feel hurt or disappointed when things don't turn out just as you had imagined. This will defeat allrepparttar 101831 positive feelings and experiences that you may have already gained.

3. Make sure you give thanks for allrepparttar 101832 blessings you do have in your life. Focusing on what you don't have only encourages negative thoughts. Add a prayer of hope forrepparttar 101833 things you would like to work for inrepparttar 101834 coming year.

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