Thereís a pattern in American households thatís been emerging and itís harmful for kids. Kids have essentially gone from being contributors to household, to being waited on hand and foot. Too many moms see household duties as being outside realm of their childís responsibilities Ė and their ability. Itís not only sad, itís also untrue.
In fact, if kids are fully capable of contributing to mess of a house, why canít they be expected to contribute to its cleaning? The problem rests with moms. As mothers we often look at housework as old saw ďif you want it done right, youíll have to do it yourself.Ē But, thatís defeating for everybody.
Kids quickly learn that ďauto-momĒ will handle all messes, laundry, cooking, cleaning, and other household jobs if they can prove their incompetence. And Moms get something out of ďbeing only oneĒ who cleans toilet right, or folds towels like they do in department stores. But this has to stop. Otherwise, trying to keep home and hearth together will be a 24-hour-a-day job and weíll end up with children whoíll leave home one day and not have vaguest clue about how to handle household duties.
Have expectation that kids will do jobs youíve assigned them One of things that can undermine process of kids helping out around house is a parentís expectation that they wonít do it. Expect that they will do jobs, check on their progress, and assign appropriate rewards and consequences to job, and itís amazing how well kids will perform.
Parents have to realign their minds that kids are fully capable -- and often willing -- to participate in running of household and housekeeping that goes with it. As an example, if you asked your son to take out trash before dinner, remove videogame privilege until itís done. Yes, it is easier to just do it ourselves, but thatís not practical and it sets a bad example, showing kids that in real world, thereís someone there to clean up after you. As anyone will tell you, real world demands that you pick up after yourself. However, not all kids are ready for every household task.