GroomWritten by Tom Ttsatsos
Groom - The guy, second most important person in wedding, and love of bride's life.If you can bring yourself to terms with being these three things before and during your wedding, your big day as well as rest of your marriage will go remarkably smoother. 1. The Guy - Be there for your bride to be. While in most cases, groom's involvement in wedding planning will be limited, from time to time every bride is going to need help dealing with pressures of process. Be her shoulder to cry on if she needs one. Stress levels will be high for both of you as planning takes shape, so be understanding of that. She might become irritable as stress mounts, so be there to allow her to vent her frustrations. Offer her your help in planning. Keep in mind that most brides have been planning their big day for years, so realize that she might already know exactly what she wants and how she wants it done. Let her know your opinions on planning. If you really don't agree with something she has planned, try asking her why she chose that particular item. The flowered head masks she wants you both to wear might be a long-running family tradition. Better to ask question than blurt out how dumb you think you're going to look in them and upset her when she's already stressed out. 2. The Second Most Important Person In The Wedding
| | Choosing the month, date and timeWritten by Tom Ttsatsos
The wedding and events leading up to ceremony are steeped in ancient traditions. Choosing month and day of a bride's wedding were considered as one of most important decisions. Many followed this rhyme when choosing their wedding month: Marry when year is new, he'll be loving, kind and true. When February birds do mate, you wed nor dread your fate. If you wed when March winds blow, joy and sorrow both you'll know. Marry in April when you can, joy for maiden and for man. Marry in month of May, and you'll surely rue day. Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you'll go. Those who in July do wed must labor for their daily bread. Whoever wed in August be, many a change is sure to see. Marry in September's shrine, your living will be rich and fine. If in October you do marry, love will come but riches tarry. If you wed in bleak November, only joys will come, remember. When December snows fall fast, marry and true love will last. May was considered an unlucky month due to several Pagan traditions. Summer began in May with festival of Baltane, which was celebrated with outdoor orgies. It was considered an unsuitable month to begin married life. In Roman times, Feast of Dead and festival of goddess of chastity both occurred in May. In Victorian Era, this advice was taken more seriously than it is today. It is rumored that Queen Victoria forbade her children to marry in May. It was also considered inappropriate to marry during Lent, as it was a time of abstinence. Thus was born rhyme: Marry in Lent, live to repent. June was considered to be a lucky month to marry in because it is named after Juno, Roman goddess of love and marriage. It was believed that getting married in June would bring prosperity and happiness to newlyweds. June also signified end of Lent and arrival of warmer weather. Summer as a whole was considered a good time to marry due to sun's association with fertility. If married in June, bride was likely to birth her first child in Spring, allowing her enough time to recover before fall harvest.
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