Grandiosity Bubbles

Written by Sam Vaknin

As one Source of Narcissistic Supply dwindles,repparttar narcissist finds himself trapped in a frantic (though, at times, unconscious) effort to secure alternatives. As one Pathological Narcissistic Space (the narcissist's stomping grounds) is rendered "uninhabitable" (too many people "see through"repparttar 126095 narcissist's manipulation and machinations) –repparttar 126096 narcissist wanders off to find another.

These hysterical endeavors sometimes lead to boom-bust cycles which involve, inrepparttar 126097 first stage,repparttar 126098 formation of a Grandiosity Bubble.

A Grandiosity Bubble is an imagined, self-aggrandizing, narrative involvingrepparttar 126099 narcissist and elements from his real life – people around him, places he frequents, or conversations he is having. The narcissist weaves a story incorporating these facts, inflating them inrepparttar 126100 process and endowing them with bogus internal meaning and consistency. In other words: he confabulates – but, this time, his confabulation is loosely based on reality.

Inrepparttar 126101 process,repparttar 126102 narcissist re-invents himself and his life to fitrepparttar 126103 new-fangled tale. He re-casts himself in newly adopted roles. He suddenly fancies himself an actor, a guru, a political activist, an entrepreneur, or an irresistible hunk. He modifies his behavior to conform to these new functions. He gradually morphs intorepparttar 126104 fabricated character and "becomes"repparttar 126105 fictitious protagonist he has created.

What does true Love mean to you?

Written by Ulla Sebastian

Most people long for or have an image of a true love that they nourish or search for all their life.

Depending onrepparttar level of consciousness, true love can mean something completely different for different people.

Onrepparttar 126094 level ofrepparttar 126095 physical well-being, love isrepparttar 126096 satisfaction of vital sensual needs andrepparttar 126097 expression of bodily pleasure and vitality onrepparttar 126098 base of an intimate relationship.

If there is a distortion on that level, sexual love turns into sex addiction or sexual dependency. In such a case you seerepparttar 126099 other as an object of your satisfaction. In sex addiction you satisfy your need for bodily stimulation, in sexual dependency your need for affection.

Onrepparttar 126100 level of personal well-being you care for what is best for you and what makes your life fulfilled. The task on this level is to acknowledge and truly love yourself with all your strengths and weaknesses.

If you do not know or appreciate your own value, you make yourself dependent onrepparttar 126101 appreciation and love of others. You need others to fill yourself not onrepparttar 126102 sexual level as before but onrepparttar 126103 emotional-mental realm. You demand appreciation, identity and self-confidence. You enterrepparttar 126104 relationship as somebody who needs love rather than somebody who is willing to give love.

Onrepparttar 126105 interpersonal level, you look for somebody, who compliments you, stabilises your self worth and satisfies your needs. According torepparttar 126106 law of attraction you fall in love with somebody, who looks forrepparttar 126107 same.

The dilemma is that two dependent people who are attracted to each other forrepparttar 126108 satisfaction of their dependency needs are not inrepparttar 126109 position to fulfil each other’s wants. They cling to each other like two burrs, without being able to give each otherrepparttar 126110 nourishment of true love that each one longs for. The frustration ofrepparttar 126111 lacking fulfilment leads to anger and hate.

Some spend their whole life playing this game of love and hate. Others separate and look for a better substitute. Usuallyrepparttar 126112 exchange ends inrepparttar 126113 same drama, if you refuse to unfold your potential.

If you onrepparttar 126114 personal level have found to yourself and you know your value, you also recognise and acknowledge it in others. When you are satisfied with yourself you don’t requestrepparttar 126115 other person to change for your own sake.

Onrepparttar 126116 contrary: You will support him/her to unfold his or her potential. You stand back, if necessary, or you stand at his/her side. You share your strengths and weaknesses, allow yourself to be vulnerable and in that way deepenrepparttar 126117 intimacy ofrepparttar 126118 partnership.

The "yes" torepparttar 126119 other person is a necessity to providerepparttar 126120 safety to master a crisis together. The relationship is an instrument of growing together, and growth means an imbalance in time. This imbalance however does not endangerrepparttar 126121 relationship, but releasesrepparttar 126122 potential for creative solutions.

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