Got Attitude?

Written by Kathryn Lord


Probably you do have attitude, but what is it? Jaded, self-protective? Frightened? Is "scared to death" too strong?

What you want, a plan to get there, and an attitude to match is vital for partnering success. Think about it: if you are sure that what you are doing won't work, chances are very good that you will be right.

It’s like planning a trip to where you really don't want to go, but it isrepparttar only route you know. Who wants to spend their vacation inrepparttar 129946 city dump? That’s just what you are deciding to do if you are saying things to yourself like "There are no good men out there," or "Women are just looking for a fat wallet," or "It’s not going to work, so why try?" You can be sure with those kinds of attitudes, you won't find any good men, or will just find gold-digging women, or you won't get anywhere at all.

Do you know how, when you suddenly become interested in something, you start noticing it everywhere? A few months ago, I got a sudden inspiration that I wanted a white convertible, right out ofrepparttar 129947 blue. And then I started noticing convertibles. Never knew that there were so many of them around, but then again, I hadn't been looking before. It’srepparttar 129948 same way with those PT Cruisers -- I think they are as cute as a button, and I notice them. I do not notice Cadillac’s or Chevrolets or BMW’s.

5 Ways to Fight Pessimism

Written by Denni Gill


Some people are naturally pessimistic and are happy being so. They view themselves as pragmatic and as having a better sense of reality. Then there are those of us who feel weighed down by negativity and wish that we could be more optimistic. This is completely possible. It all lies inrepparttar way we perceive things...

1.Stress management

When we conceal our anxieties, they only build. Each concern can snowball into a feeling of being overwhelmed. Each person has their own way of letting off steam. This varies from exercise, to listening to music, to reading a good book. More of us are beginning to realize how important proper stress management is to both our physical and mental health.

2.Constant reality checks

It is sometimes necessary to debaterepparttar 129944 validity of your concerns to determine whether they are rational or not. This is called self-rationalization and one ofrepparttar 129945 most recognized methods isrepparttar 129946 worst case scenario. This is when you considerrepparttar 129947 worst possible situation, then go on to consider whether it is likely to happen. For example, a loved one said they would call once they arrived by subway to a certain destination. They should have reached that destination 15 minutes ago. You may dream up scenarios of there being a train accident or some other frightful incident took place. But after a little thought, you find that it’s more probable that they either have yet to reach their stop or they will simply call you when it is convenient for them. You never want to leap to conclusions and cause yourself unnecessary stress.

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