Bosses can lose their own identity sometimes. It’s easy. It happens a lot. The results are devastating to both workers and to supervisor.

When we are boss, there are many dangers in becoming you ‘position’ instead of you ‘person’. There are many reasons why supervisors morph into being serious, alienated, distracted, unapproachable boss. One is that we want so badly to do a good job, and we think one way to do that is to take job very seriously.

But other reasons are that we don’t know how to be a good supervisor and we don’t know what this job is that we have been promoted into. The reason is that we don’t know how to spend our time, what to concentrate on and what or how to delegate. So we take it all so seriously because we really don’t know what we are supposed to do as a supervisor. This creates stress, distress, anxiety and toxicity. This is not only true for new supervisors. It remains true for many veteran bosses for whom people do not like to work.

So supervisors must concentrate on three things, and only three. When they know what these three things are, a lot of pressure that turns them into position will be lifted. Then, they can lighten up and be person they know they are again, as they will know what to do with their time as a supervisor. And, you won’t be surprised to learn that these three things are antidote for staff turnover!

Let’s start at beginning. The top three reasons people leave their jobs:

1st reason, they leave because their supervisor as a jerk; 2nd, because they don’t feel acknowledged, recognized or appreciated; 3rd, they have no say in their work

Here is a simple and effective aid to confident and professional delivery when speaking in public. Are you making use of it?

The first golden rule to follow if you want your speech or business presentation to flow smoothly and spontaneously, is not to read it word for word from a written script. Your speech will sound stilted, and you will be looking down at your notes most of time when you should be looking at your audience.

But unless you can memorise entire talk as an actor would memorise his lines you are almost certainly going to need something to help you remember vital points that you want to make.

That previous statement holds key. All you need is a reminder of vital points of your speech, main headings.

The filling in between can be added spontaneously at time of delivery. If you know your subject well enough you will find that infilling can quite safely be left unscripted and you will have no difficulty providing it when needed. You do need to know your subject, though. You can’t escape from that.

If you are less confident, then keep a scripted speech as ‘standby’ in case you get stuck and need to refer to it to get going again, but do try to do without it when you give your talk. Just fact of having this emergency script available in case of total blockage will give you confidence necessary to succeed without it.