Give Up to Get Love

Written by Rinatta Paries

Many times when people want to attract their ideal partner, they often make a list of things to do -- action steps, if you will -- that will help them meet "the one." They add new activities into their routine, join dating services, write singles ads. They may start an exercise program or buy new clothes in an effort to look better. They let their friends know they're "inrepparttar market."

Seldom do people think of giving up something as a way to attract Mr. or Ms. Right. Well, this is not entirely true. People may give up such things as smoking or overeating. Butrepparttar 101913 kind of "giving-up" I'm referring to is about your beliefs, attitudes and feelings. Giving up something in one of these three areas is more likely to lead you to your Mr. or Ms. Right.

Here is a list of five things you should consider giving up if you want to attract your Mr. or Ms. Right:

1. Give up anger atrepparttar 101914 opposite sex. You can tell when people have a chip on their shoulders. And yet those who are angry and disappointed withrepparttar 101915 opposite sex think their feelings are undetectable. If you can truly give uprepparttar 101916 anger, you have a much better chance of attractingrepparttar 101917 partner you want.

2. Give up on your past relationships. Most of us can tell when someone is unavailable or ambivalent about dating because of an unfinished relationship. If you hope that one of your past partners will come back, others will be able to tell. Your ideal partner will surely want a completely available partner. You'll be hard pressed to attract him or her until you are completely available.

3. Give up trying to be perfect in order to attract a mate. As long as you think your body, your pocketbook or your emotional well-being have to be in perfect shape in order to be loved, you will remain alone. A state of perfection can seldom be achieved - we are as human beings are inherently imperfect. You are peachy just as you are for some lucky person out there.

Simple Planning Makes for a More Enjoyable Vacation

Written by Kathy Paauw

Simple Planning Makes for a More Enjoyable Vacation

June is "Rebuild Your Life" Month... time to think of ways that you can rejuvenate yourself and reconnect with those you care about most. If your vacation includes travel, I encourage you to plan at least one trip that is purely vacation. Makerepparttar first day of summer (June 21) your deadline for finalizing summer travel and vacation plans.

The annual family vacation is typically a time for fun and relaxation... if you plan ahead. For those who don't plan accordingly, it can also be a time of disaster, stress, and heartache. Unfortunately, most people don't associate planning with fun. I've learned that leaving evenrepparttar 101912 smallest details unattended to can be a recipe for disaster. I'll illustrate my point by sharing some personal experiences.

Confirmed Airline Reservations... Ha!

Six years ago my family planned a summer vacation to Alaska. Because Alaska only has a couple months of warm weather, we knew thatrepparttar 101913 month of July would be a busy time to travel there. That's why we purchased our airline tickets six months in advance. With paid tickets in hand, I calledrepparttar 101914 airlinerepparttar 101915 day before to confirm our reservations. They confirmed that we had paid reservations forrepparttar 101916 flight.

The next day we got torepparttar 101917 airport 1.5 hours before departure time. That's when we were told thatrepparttar 101918 flight was oversold and we did not have confirmed seats onrepparttar 101919 plane. I said, "How can this be? We bought these tickets six months ago! We were amongrepparttar 101920 first passengers to purchase tickets for this flight! And we're here early... most other passengers have not even checked in yet!!" The agent behindrepparttar 101921 ticket counter explained to me that, because we had purchasedrepparttar 101922 tickets so far in advance, seat assignments were not made atrepparttar 101923 time of purchase. (We since learned that most airlines do not have their computers set up for seat assignments until 60-90 days out.) Those who purchased tickets or called to request seat assignments within 60 days of departure had reserved seats. We were placed onrepparttar 101924 waiting list.

Our story had a happy ending. We gotrepparttar 101925 last three seats available... all in First Class! Although we had a favorable outcome, our vacation could have ended in disaster. This is one lesson I will never forget! I've just purchased airline tickets for December to Hawaii. Althoughrepparttar 101926 flight is almost sold out,repparttar 101927 airline will not make seat assignments until 90 days prior to departure. Guess who has a reminder in her tickler file to callrepparttar 101928 airline in September! (Learn more about setting up your own tickler file here: ickler_file.html )

Guaranteed for Late Arrival torepparttar 101929 Hotel... Ha!

The summer following our trip to Alaska, our family vacationed in Minnesota. Our flight was scheduled to land very late inrepparttar 101930 evening, so I asked our travel agent to set up a guarantee for late arrival when she bookedrepparttar 101931 hotel reservations. Our agent confirmed that she had givenrepparttar 101932 hotel our credit card to holdrepparttar 101933 room. As planned, we arrived atrepparttar 101934 Doubletree Hotel at about 11:30 PM. When I went torepparttar 101935 registration desk to check in, I was told that there were no rooms available. I was shocked! I presented them with a printout from our travel agent, which confirmed our guarantee for late arrival.

In search for a greater understanding of what a "guarantee for late arrival" meant, I asked to speak withrepparttar 101936 manager on duty. I asked him, "If we had not checked in tonight, wouldrepparttar 101937 hotel have billed our credit card forrepparttar 101938 room, even though there are no rooms available?" That's when I learned thatrepparttar 101939 Doubletree Hotel's guarantee was only a one-way guarantee. He confirmed that this was their standard policy. Having difficulty comprehending this policy, I reframedrepparttar 101940 question: "So if we are paying forrepparttar 101941 room, why is someone else sleeping in it right now?" He informed me thatrepparttar 101942 guarantee did not obligate them to provide accommodations in their hotel; it simply meant that they guaranteed we would have a place to sleep that night. As I stood atrepparttar 101943 counter,repparttar 101944 desk attendant spentrepparttar 101945 next 20 minutes calling other hotels and motels inrepparttar 101946 area. Finally he informed me that they would put us up at no charge atrepparttar 101947 Prime Rate Motel downrepparttar 101948 road! Hardlyrepparttar 101949 accommodations we had planned on... and "downrepparttar 101950 road" was 15 miles away!

When we returned home from our trip, I calledrepparttar 101951 Doubletree Hotel headquarters in Phoenix to see if this was their corporate policy, or justrepparttar 101952 local policy for that particular location. I was shocked when their customer service rep informed me that this was "standard practice inrepparttar 101953 industry," adding that "the airlines do it allrepparttar 101954 time." From now on, when I know I will be checking in late, I ask explicit questions about a hotel's policy regarding guaranteed late arrivals.

How High Do Mosquitoes Fly?

Of course, some things are simply beyond our control, and no amount of planning can guarantee a flawless vacation. I remember one of my first trips to Jakarta, Indonesia, where my husband's brother and his family live. We had maderepparttar 101955 long flight halfway aroundrepparttar 101956 world, and I was exhausted. (A quick geography refresher: Jakarta is nearrepparttar 101957 equator, and it is very hot and humid there.) We were staying in a nice hotel withrepparttar 101958 modern comforts of air conditioning and purified water... two important elements for me.

When we checked intorepparttar 101959 hotel, we were informed that they would be doing some electrical work onrepparttar 101960 elevator shafts, and would therefore be turningrepparttar 101961 electricity off forrepparttar 101962 entire hotel from 2:00 AM to 8:00 AM while they didrepparttar 101963 work. I thought to myself, "Well, by then I will be asleep and I won't even notice it."

Boy, was I wrong! At 2:40 AM I woke up in a sweat. By 3:00 AM I was really hot and sticky. I had a brilliant idea! We were onrepparttar 101964 12th floor, and I decided to openrepparttar 101965 windows to let in some fresh air. There were no screens onrepparttar 101966 windows, but I figured that we were high enough offrepparttar 101967 ground that it would be safe to open them. I made an assumption that mosquitoes would not fly that high. Again, I was wrong. Within a few minutes I had 32 mosquito bites covering my body and more were buzzing in my ear. Now I was not only hot and sticky, but I also felt like one huge, itchy, miserable welt. (My husband only had two mosquito bites. For some reason, mosquitoes have always liked me more than him.) We ended up leaving our hotel room and walking aroundrepparttar 101968 lobbyrepparttar 101969 rest ofrepparttar 101970 night.

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