Give At The Office: Empty At HomeWritten by Dr. Dorree Lynn
As stigma of seeking therapy has diminished, serious therapists have themselves become scapegoats and symbols for much that is wrong with mental health field. This distrust of therapeutic professions comes at a time when there is an increasing unraveling of relationships, family, and community and society needs good therapists more than ever. While Internet has brought us easy access to instant information and provided us with chat rooms to visit when we are lonely, Internet is itself responsible for many of new problems facing us, as real structures that constitute a dependable emotional safety net are being eroded.
In an attempt to make work place more inviting and employees more productive, new work environment may include amenities such as gyms, child-care centers, kitchens, valet and concierge services, sleeping rooms, and even rooms for worship. The underside of this shift towards “office as home” is that it is in direct competition with, and can seriously challenge, quality of family life. Thus, while improving work place—a major and important cultural construct—is all to good, it is, at same time, contributing to erosion of an even more important cultural construct, family.
Family time is becoming sparse and scattered. Even those who work at home often lose their boundaries and find that work life and home life merge into one. Husbands and wives stop communicating, lovemaking disappears and children get shuttled from one activity to another or shunted from one ex to another.
Divorce Is Not A Good Idea Right NowWritten by Dr. Dorree Lynn
Since September 11th although tempers have flared, depression has increased and sleeplessness has become an unwelcome visitor to many, committed relationships have not faltered and divorce filings have declined. Why is this? Even though people are stressed and often wind up fighting with their husband, wife or significant other, something positive has also occurred. People realize that they need each other and that life really is too hard to do alone. They need security of their valued friends and loved ones. A warm body in bed can feel good when you wake up terrified in middle of night. Someone to talk to and to touch has taken on new meaning. And, single scene suddenly doesn’t seem all that it was once cracked up to be.
Relationships, kindness and gentleness salve serious wounds. Couples instinctively seem to understand this. When faced with new threats, differences that once seemed major can seem insignificant. In that way, this time of upheaval can be used positively to strengthen ties that bind.