Getting What You Need: Asking for Help

Written by Deirdre Maigread McEachern

"Fortune befriendsrepparttar bold." - John Dryden

I regularly work with clients on making major life changes in line with a new definition of personal success. There are many methods we use in this process: identifying values, removing distractions, getting in touch with their inner wisdom, creating a powerful vision, knowing their energy limits, etc. However, one ofrepparttar 138952 most important methods is often overlooked -- getting what they need by asking for help when they need it.

Takingrepparttar 138953 time to seek help can be a real boost to your productivity when going through change. It is very easy to waste a lot of time going in circles trying to re-inventrepparttar 138954 wheel without even realizing we are doing it. At first, it can feel more efficient to do things by ourselves. But whenrepparttar 138955 situation is too big for us, this approach can eat up a huge chunk of our time. Quick and easy sources of help are sometimes just a phone call away or a simple email to a trusted source.

Isn't it funny, though, how asking for help is often our last resort? It usually occurs atrepparttar 138956 end ofrepparttar 138957 problem solving process -- when we are frustrated and feel as if we have hit a dead end. Instead, I would suggest starting any challenge by asking, "do I need help with this?"

Many of us are so used to beingrepparttar 138958 helpers to others thatrepparttar 138959 thought doesn't occur to us to reverserepparttar 138960 roles and seek help for ourselves.

Why not consider all ofrepparttar 138961 available resources?

Some people avoid asking for help because they don't want to "bother" others. If this sounds like you, do you rememberrepparttar 138962 last time someone asked you for help? Were you bothered? Probably not. In fact, you might have even been flattered and happy to contribute. Helping others feels good! Why not give othersrepparttar 138963 chance to feel good about contributing to you?

How To Ask For A Pay Rise!

Written by Kim Beardsmore

Negotiating a pay rise is not something many people do on a regular basis. By applying these keys you will be well positioned to improve your negotiation skills and feel more empowered when asking for a pay rise.

1. Knowrepparttar outcome you want. Do you want a win-win outcome where both you and your boss benefit? Or a win-lose outcome where your boss is not happy withrepparttar 138931 result?

It is important you know what type of outcome you want because that will affectrepparttar 138932 long term relationship you have withrepparttar 138933 other party. Win-win outcomes are beneficial where you have an ongoing relationship. For example, when you negotiate a pay rise, you don't want your boss to feel he/she isrepparttar 138934 'loser'. However, if you are buying a car from a car lot, you may not be so concerned about whetherrepparttar 138935 car salesperson feels as though they 'won' inrepparttar 138936 negotiation!

2. Know your 'position'. How important is this job to you? How much do you need it? Could you walk away fromrepparttar 138937 job? What alternatives do you have? What is your "bottom line" and what (if anything) are you prepared to concede? You should not start negotiating a pay rise until you have thought through and considered all ofrepparttar 138938 consequences for all ofrepparttar 138939 different outcomes that may eventuate.

Warning: never say something you are not prepared to carry through. Generally, employers do not respond well to threats, so do not say you will leaverepparttar 138940 job unless you fully intend to….they just may take you up onrepparttar 138941 offer!

3. Work out different scenarios ahead of time. Being caught by surprise will NOT strengthen your request! Think through allrepparttar 138942 different possibilities, which may eventuate and plan for each and every one of them. It is useful to brainstorm and write down on a piece of paper what could possibly happen. For example, if your boss said, "XYZ" - I would respond with, "ABC". This way you can be prepared for just about anything that may happen.

4. Know yourself. Know your own weaknesses. If you are a gentle personality your natural aversion to conflict may toss you into concessions that aren't necessary! If this is you, learn about yourself and take counter action. If you are overly stubborn and never give way to minor points, know this about yourself. Your stubbornness, holding out for 100% your own way, may cause you to lose a really great offer from your boss!

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