“People from all walks of life, “I respond oh-so-patiently, “Male and female, young and old, rich and not-so-rich, powerful and famous come with all kinds of queries. But it’s not a matter of who comes but issues they come with,” I add. “A common one for a lot of people is “feeling stuck,” not knowing which way to go in life.”

“And what do you tell them?”

“That they are in good company. And stuckness is part of process.”

Psychic or not, sometimes my own future is indefinable. I just don’t know. Or that’s what I tell myself anyway. Some hidden fear may be lurking in my unconscious mind and creating a smokescreen.

Metaphorically, energy or “chi” is like a flowing river. When we feel stuck, flow of that river is caught in an eddy. Our chi is going around and around in circles and being sucked down into a bottomless vortex.

Remember, though, this is only your mind telling you that you are stuck. Energy by its very definition means motion and, therefore, cannot stay still. “Stuckness” is just an illusion and sometimes, merely a judgment of where you have not yet arrived. Your ego mind, your conscious waking-state chatters at you, berating you constantly with “I should be doing. . . ” or “what’s wrong with me?” or “I don’t know…” et al.

But stuckness does not have to be suffered. It can be celebrated.

1.See Yourself as a Success

You’re probably familiar with that little voice inside your head that tells you you’re never good enough. Instead of letting that voice continuously judge what you didn’t do right; focus on an actual moment in your life that makes you feel wonderful.

This could be a moment at your wedding, birth of your first child, or a great victory you achieved. Picture it as if you were living it all over again. Right before you think of this moment, say these words: “You know what this (say bad feeling you are having right then) reminds me of? It reminds me of time…

Then remember or in essence “live out” your great moment. End moment with words: “That’s what this reminds me of.” This is exactly what Olympic athletes have done for years to increase their physical performance. They see it first in their imagination and then they reach their goals.

2.Restore Your Self Confidence

The second key to getting over your need for acceptance is self-confidence. Confidence is result of how you see yourself in your imagination. The way your nervous system makes you feel is direct result of what’s going on in your imagination.

That’s why when someone describes a great meal; you begin to salivate even though there is no actual food in reality. To your nervous system, this “food” is more real than actual food itself. Since that’s case, just think what would happen if you imagined yourself being successful and confident?