Getting Mama Out of the House

Written by Valerie McDermott


Some mama’s I know are all overrepparttar mama get-together idea fromrepparttar 130439 day they deliver their little bundle of joy. Scrapbooking, girls night out, dinner and drinks, shopping, even a movie are all perfect and deserving breaks. Other mothers, however, especially new mom’s find thatrepparttar 130440 idea of a regular get together with her girlfriends can be just another added stress. How do I findrepparttar 130441 time or energy? Can I leaverepparttar 130442 baby? Do I deserve time away? Please don’t stress. It doesn’t take a late night out onrepparttar 130443 town to recharge your battery. Think baby steps! Can you get a one or two hour slot of time inrepparttar 130444 following month that can be just for you? Of course you can! Just think, it could be a Saturday or Sunday morning or a Friday afternoon lunch. There are no right ways or wrong ways to have fun and reconnect withrepparttar 130445 special women in your life.

Coping with Your Stalker

Written by Sam Vaknin


Abuse by proxy continues long afterrepparttar relationship is officially over (at least as far as you are concerned). The majority of abusers getrepparttar 130437 message, however belatedly and reluctantly. Others – more vindictive and obsessed – continue to haunt their ex-spouses for years to come. These arerepparttar 130438 stalkers.

Most stalkers are what Zona (1993) and Geberth (1992) call "Simple Obsessional" or, as Mullen and Pathe put it (1999) – "Rejected". They stalk their prey as a way of maintainingrepparttar 130439 dissolved relationship (at least in their diseased minds). They seek to "punish" their quarry for refusing to collaborate inrepparttar 130440 charade and for resisting their unwanted and ominous attentions.

Such stalkers come from all walks of life and cut across social, racial, gender, and cultural barriers. They usually suffer from one or more (comorbid) personality disorders. They may have anger management or emotional problems and they usually abuse drugs or alcohol. Stalkers are typically lonely, violent, and intermittently unemployed – but they are rarely full fledged criminals.

Contrary to myths perpetrated byrepparttar 130441 mass media, studies show that most stalkers are men, have high IQ's, advanced degrees, and are middle aged (Meloy and Gothard, 1995; and Morrison, 2001).

Rejected stalkers are intrusive and inordinately persistent. They recognize no boundaries – personal or legal. They honor to "contracts" and they pursue their target for years. They interpret rejection as a sign ofrepparttar 130442 victim's continued interest and obsession with them. They are, therefore, impossible to get rid of. Many of them are narcissists and, thus, lack empathy, feel omnipotent and immune torepparttar 130443 consequences of their actions.

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