Getting Bent into ShapeWritten by Jean R. Charles
The other day, I unfolded a Chinese food container getting it ready for recycling bin. I noticed that flattened, it was a very interestingly shaped white piece of cardboard. It could have been used in that state for several things including, something to write on, to cover something else, or as a decoration. In order to fulfill its real purpose of being a container for food, it had to be bent into its final boxy shape.
I thought about how many times in life we come upon people or events that disturb or annoy us and we say that
Going With The Flow (Instead Of Swimming Upstream)Written by Sibyl McLendon
One of biggest lessons that I have learned in this life is how futile it is to fight inevitability. Life is change; if we stop changing, we stop growing. Life is never going to go exactly way that you want it to. Something is always waiting to pop up and bite you. The more that you attempt to make life go your way more that it wonít. Your life will be so much more peaceful and smooth if you just learn to stop swimming upstream.
Now, I am not saying that you should just stop making decisions and go whatever way wind blows. We all have to make decisions every day. We need to make certain decisions, that is just using our personal power to its fullest. But when you come up against an obstacle that you have no control over and that you really donít like, what do you do? Maybe it is a change at your job, a change in someone close to you, or even a change in your health. If this is a major change, and you have no control over it, then more that you fight, worse it will be. The only thing that you will get from batting your head against a stone wall is a headache. The chance of you breaking down wall is nil.
Constant resistance to a change that you cannot control has negative effects on your health, your emotions and people around you. When presented with a major change that one is resistant to, people tend to obsess about it, quickly becoming a pain to be around. Constant worrying and stressing over a change that you cannot control leads to all sorts of physical problems. And not one of these reactions is going to change core problem.
It is so much better if you can recognize what is changeable and what is not. If something has manifested in your life that you cannot change, then you must change instead. Being flexible is a true virtue. You must learn to go with flow, so to speak, instead of always trying to swim upstream, against current. Ask yourself if this is a change that you can learn to live with. How much does it really impact your life? If it has to do with a job, then maybe you will have to adapt or find another one. If it is a major illness, then flexibility may save your life.