“If you build it, they will come.” - voice in “Field Of Dreams” - Works well in movies, but in real life, it just doesn’t quite work out that way.
Business owners know it. They understand that once they build their shop, they need to advertise, tell all their friends, give out free stuff, go door to door with mailers, stick more of them on car windshields in parking lots, and even make crummy commercials on late night television just to get word out.
Job seekers know it. They understand that when they want a change or need a new job, they need to advertise, tell all their friends send out samples of their work, write up dreaded resume and cover letter to each possible HR department and even volunteer as an intern in hopes of getting a “real job” once that time is over.
But forget about our professional lives, what about our lives at home? We sit at home at times wishing for someone to come on by and offer us a life of our dreams. When doorbell rings, too often it has been someone coming by only for our vote or for us to give them a dollar to help their school.
Because it has been of no real benefit to us in past, we sometimes stop rushing to door every time it rings (or when opportunity knocks). In a related way, maybe we are so wrapped up in our life rut that we just don’t have energy (physical, but mainly mental) to do anything about it.
‘Ya see, I would do more, but Survivor #4 is on tonight. It is supposed to have immunity challenge to end all immunity challenges. So, ya see, I have to watch for that. Then comes tribal counsel, then someone leaves, then it is time for something else to watch.’
Truth be told, our happiness in our personal lives works somewhat same as for a business or when looking for a job. We must create image in our minds that we are capable of being more than we are. We must know what it is we want out of whatever it is we do. We must build ourselves up by doing something. We must look around for opportunities and at least get a bit of information from them.