Get Off Your Butt and Out of the Rut

Written by Lorraine Pirihi


It's amazing to see so many people who are prepared to sacrifice their lives forrepparttar sake of their careers.

I'm sure you know of someone like that. They get up atrepparttar 140773 crack of dawn, drag their weary bodies out ofrepparttar 140774 house and head off for another exciting day at work. Ten or twelve hours later they head home totally exhausted with all their energy sapped from their body.

They might makerepparttar 140775 effort to find out howrepparttar 140776 rest of their family's day has been, even read their children a bed-time story. Finally after having something to eat, taking a hot shower or bath, they then veg out onrepparttar 140777 couch. They immerse themselves inrepparttar 140778 newspaper (again) or watchrepparttar 140779 news or some mindless television show (if they don't fall asleep beforehand).

And this is a common scenario for many people who work for someone else! I can understand it if you own your own business where there's so much extra pressure riding on you, yet to sacrifice so much for someone else???

The Solicitor I met Jerry atrepparttar 140780 gym. He was telling me that forrepparttar 140781 past two years he has been working at a legal firm inrepparttar 140782 city. An average day commenced at 8.00 a.m. and finished at 7.00 p.m. Working weekends was common. Lunch breaks and time off were unheard of. This wasrepparttar 140783 culture instilled at his company! No wonder staff turnover was high!

Here was a young man, only 25 years old, absolutely stressed torepparttar 140784 max.

He felt he was on a rollercoaster and couldn't get off.

Clearingrepparttar 140785 Clutter Jerry was so entrenched in his situation he couldn't clearly see what he could do. He felt powerless so did nothing.

I suggested to Jerry he write a list of allrepparttar 140786 options open to him. Some of these were:

Speak to his boss and work out a compromise. *Plan his working day and be strict aboutrepparttar 140787 time he would leave each day. Take charge himself by starting later if he had to stay back. Or finish earlier if he had to commence work earlier. Learn to say 'no'. Look for another job where they put their people first. (According to Jerry most legal firms treated their peoplerepparttar 140788 same way). See our newsletter Look After Your People and They Will Look After You Jerry really did know his options and just needed to have someone to confirm what he already knew (and ask a few hard questions).

Why Women Talk and Men Don't

Written by Lorraine Pirihi


I had an interesting experience last week…if you have spoken to me inrepparttar past few weeks, you’ll know that I’ve sounded like I’ve had a permanent case of laryngitis. What I actually had was a cyst on my throat. It’s like a big blister andrepparttar 140772 only way to get rid of it was to cut it out. So if I wanted to speak clearly again, I had no choice than to go ahead and have microsurgery. Notice I said micro, sounds much better than surgery or operation.

In fact,repparttar 140773 whole process was (thank goodness) totally painless, even afterwards. All I had to do was rest my voice and not speak for 48 hours! I’ll also be undertaking voice lessons to ensure I protect this valuable instrument.

Now torepparttar 140774 men reading this, avoiding opening your mouth for that period of time would probably not bother you. However, for a female it is a very hard thing to do. We like to talk in case you hadn’t noticed.

According to research, women speak around 30,000 (that’s right guys) words a day and men (if you’re lucky) speak around 10,000. So that’s a ratio of 3:1.

Interesting, isn’t it? So how does this work in daily life?

She Says – “He just doesn’t listen”

He Says: “She talks too much”

In their best-selling books “Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps” and “Why Men, Lie and Women Cry”, Barbara and Alan Pease say:

Women Talk, Talk and Talk " When a woman talks she often uses indirect speech. This means she hints at what she wants or infers things.

Women's indirect speech has a purpose - it builds relationships and rapport with others by avoiding aggression, confrontation or discord.

When women use indirect speech with other women there is seldom a problem - women are sensitive to picking uprepparttar 140775 real meaning. It can, however be disastrous when used on men.

Men Take Words Literally Men use direct speech and take words literally. They find women's lack of conversational structure and purpose very disconcerting, and accuse women of not knowing what they're talking about. They respond by saying things like "What'srepparttar 140776 point here?", "Where is this conversation going?" and "What'srepparttar 140777 bottom line?"

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