Get Blissed!

Written by Jo Ball

Elton John, Billy Joel, Phil Collins and Freddie Mercury all have something in common, aside of a smidge of talent andrepparttar fact they all became pop-stars.

Watch Elton John perform I’m Still Standing or Billy Joel play My Life at their pianos, or witness Freddie Mercury winding up for We arerepparttar 137787 Champions or Phil Collins on drums during In The Air Tonight, and you’ll witness something magical happening, something that sends shivers down your spine. But what is it that they do?

We’ll it’srepparttar 137788 same ‘something’ that caused Bob Geldoff to pull all his music industry pals together and raise millions for charity back inrepparttar 137789 eighties withrepparttar 137790 hit Do they Know its Christmas andrepparttar 137791 subsequent Band Aid appeal. It got Churchill to moverepparttar 137792 nation with powerful speeches and it is all that stands between you and our true greatness.

But what is that ‘something’? And is it simple enough to bring into our everyday lives?

The answer is yes.

It’s to do withrepparttar 137793 first principle of Life Purpose, that we all have a unique gift and a distinctive way to express it. The best way for me to explain this to you is to tell you a short story.

A year ago I suggested that my son took up music lessons with his grandfather. His Pappy is a professional musician, and if you’re child is going to becomerepparttar 137794 prodigy that all parents’ hope they will be, you want them to learn from a pro, don’t you, especially if that pro is a family member. He tookrepparttar 137795 suggestion up and here is what unfolded.

Nine months later he’d had enough. It seemed like hard work. Sure he masteredrepparttar 137796 scales – nothing wrong with his fingers – could readrepparttar 137797 notes – nothing wrong with his memory – but he couldn’t sit still duringrepparttar 137798 lessons and inrepparttar 137799 week in between each session we only ever heard him doing minimal practicing.

(Does this sound like you when you are at work? Going throughrepparttar 137800 motions, doing what needs to be done and not managing more?)

After school he never took himself off to his room, plugged inrepparttar 137801 keyboard and shocked himself with something new he’d learned to do. He never hit heaven, blissed out, totally astounded himself or got excited over a new discovery. He never came to me, shook me from my book and said, “Listen to this, Dad. It’ll blow your mind!”

We concluded it wasn’t his thing – each to his own – and he admitted he only took it up because he thought I’d be happy!

Forgiving the Unforgiveable

Written by Lynne Kaska

Forgivingrepparttar Unforgivable How many years are you going to carry that unforgivable injury? How many years are you going to be controlled by it? How painful is it to carry this pain? What is it costing you? What arerepparttar 137662 payoffs for holding onto it? When you get sick and tired of carrying this, you'll makerepparttar 137663 choice to let it go and to forgive that person for hurting you. The results will be indescribable. Let me start off by telling you a little bit about what forgiveness is not. The most important thing for me to remember is that forgiveness is does NOT mean that whatrepparttar 137664 injurer did is right. It does not mean that you are letting them offrepparttar 137665 hook for their behavior. It odes not mean that you have to disassociate from that person. It's not done forrepparttar 137666 injurer. What is forgiveness? Forgiveness is a conscious choice that we make for ourselves. It is a choice that we make to not allow those that have hurt us to have power over us. Not only is it important for us to forgive those people who have harmed us, I have found that it is essential for me to forgive myself as well. Usually it's me that is my own worst enemy. Now that we have identified what forgiveness is and is not, it's time to look at just how do we make that conscious choice. Step One: Identifyrepparttar 137667 Injury Of course, in order to forgive someone, we have to identifyrepparttar 137668 injury andrepparttar 137669 pain it caused. Below is a list of several questions to ask yourself in order to help you identifyrepparttar 137670 people YOU need to forgive. With each person who has hurt you in life, answerrepparttar 137671 following questions: 1. What hasrepparttar 137672 injury cost you? 2. How is carryingrepparttar 137673 pain and anger working for you? 3. What isrepparttar 137674 payoff for carryingrepparttar 137675 pain and anger? 4. What would it be like to let this go? Step Two: Validating Your Feelings When I went throughrepparttar 137676 process of forgivingrepparttar 137677 people that have hurt me,repparttar 137678 most important step for me was to understand that even though I am choosing to forgive and let go, it doesn't invalidaterepparttar 137679 way I feel. It was absolutely essential for me to validate my own feelings and to tell myself that those feelings were okay to have. I didn't think that validating my feelings would make such a big difference in makingrepparttar 137680 choice to forgive. When I knew that my feelings aboutrepparttar 137681 injury were very real, it tookrepparttar 137682 power away fromrepparttar 137683 fear that I felt about letting go ofrepparttar 137684 injury. Step Three: Asking for Guidance Asking for guidance in makingrepparttar 137685 decision to forgive was huge for me. I knew in my heart that I couldn't overcome this alone. I found people that understood where I was coming from. They may not have been throughrepparttar 137686 exact same situation, but they understood my feelings. Those people had to be safe for me, and trustworthy. The support that they offered me was instrumental in my forgiveness. You don't ever have to go through anything alone. For merepparttar 137687 people that I went to for support were people who had gone through this process before me. They knew my fears, they knew my hurt and pain, and they could walk through it with me because they've been there themselves.

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