Are female narcissists any different? You seem to talk only about male narcissists!
I keep using male third person singular because most narcissists (75%) are males and more so because there is little difference between male and female narcissists.
In manifestation of their narcissism, female and male narcissists, inevitably, do tend to differ. They emphasise different things. They transform different elements of their personalities and of their lives into cornerstones of their disorder.
Women concentrate on their body (many also suffer from eating disorders: Anorexia Nervosa and Bulimia Nervosa). They flaunt and exploit their physical charms, their sexuality, their socially and culturally determined "femininity". They secure their Narcissistic Supply through their more traditional gender role: home, children, suitable careers, their husbands ("the wife of
"), their feminine traits, their role in society, etc.
It is no wonder than narcissists both men and women are chauvinistic and conservative. They depend to such an extent on opinions of people around them that, with time, they are transformed into ultra-sensitive seismographs of public opinion, barometers of prevailing social fashions, and guardians of conformity. The narcissist cannot afford to seriously alienate his "constituency", those people who reflect his False Self back to him. The very proper and on-going functioning of narcissist's Ego depends on goodwill and collaboration of his human environment.
True, besieged and consumed by pernicious guilt feelings many a narcissist finally seek to be punished. The self-destructive narcissist then plays role of "bad guy" (or "bad girl"). But even then it is within traditional socially allocated roles. To ensure social opprobrium (read: attention), narcissist exaggerates these roles to a caricature.
A woman is likely to label herself a "whore" and a male narcissist to self-style himself a "vicious, unrepentant criminal". Yet, these again are traditional social roles. Men are likely to emphasise intellect, power, aggression, money, or social status. Women are likely to emphasise body, looks, charm, sexuality, feminine "traits", homemaking, children and childrearing even as they seek their masochistic punishment.
Another difference is in way genders react to treatment. Women are more likely to resort to therapy because they are more likely to admit to psychological problems. But while men may be less inclined to DISCLOSE or to expose their problems to others (the macho-man factor) it does not necessarily imply that they are less prone to admit it to themselves. Women are also more likely to ask for help than men.
Yet, prime rule of narcissism must never be forgotten: narcissist uses everything around him or her to obtain his (or her) Narcissistic Supply. Children happen to be more attached to female narcissist due to way our society is still structured and to fact that women are ones to give birth. It is easier for a woman to think of her children as her extensions because they once indeed were her physical extensions and because her on-going interaction with them is both more intensive and more extensive.
This means that male narcissist is more likely to regard his children as a nuisance than as a source of rewarding Narcissist Supply especially as they grow older and become autonomous. Devoid of diversity of alternatives available to men narcissistic woman fights to maintain her most reliable Source of Supply: her children. Through insidious indoctrination, guilt formation, emotional sanctions, deprivation and other psychological mechanisms, she tries to induce in them a dependence, which cannot be easily unravelled.
But, there is no psychodynamic difference between children, money, or intellect, as Sources of Narcissistic Supply. So, there is no psychodynamic difference between male and female narcissist. The only difference is in their choices of Sources of Narcissistic Supply.
An interesting side issue relates to transsexuals.
Philosophically, there is little difference between a narcissist who seeks to avoid his True Self (and positively to become his False Self) and a transsexual who seeks to discard his true gender. But this similarity, though superficially appealing, is questionable.