For What Purpose?

Written by Rob Wheeler

So you want to be successful. For What Purpose? When I first heard that question I said, "You've got to be crazy, to have a lot of money. What else?" This was quickly followed byrepparttar question, For What Purpose?

I have to tell you that I went dead silent. My mental wheels were spinning. My eyes glazed over into what can best be described as a "thousand yard" stare.

Until that point in time I hadn't really considered what was my purpose for anything. I thought I knewrepparttar 102012 "why" of what I was doing with my life. I was working to support my family. That's "why" I had a job. But there was alwaysrepparttar 102013 statement quietly running inrepparttar 102014 back of my mind "...there had to be more to life than this."

Then it hit me. I was thinking and talking aboutrepparttar 102015 DOing in my life and notrepparttar 102016 BEing. You and I are called Human Beings, not Human Doings, and yetrepparttar 102017 "do-ing-ness" wasrepparttar 102018 direction that I had learned to travel. From where did that come?

As I looked at my life I discovered that there were thought patterns that had been with me for as long as I can remember. They were so rooted in my mind that they all but transparent. And it was those patterns brought into realization through my words and outer activities that were in charge. No wonder I thought that "..there had to be more to life than this."

Let me tell you, right here and now, that I didn't come from a dysfunctional family. I wasn't born into poverty, nor with a "silver spoon". I wasn't abused as a child. My family loves me and it shows in a thousand ways. There was nothing "wrong" with me.

I write these words so that you will KNOW you don't have to have had a "horrible" childhood and/or life to date to pick up these now transparent patterns. Regardless of your background it isrepparttar 102019 patterns you have picked up and held tightly together, running in repparttar 102020 background, that arerepparttar 102021 roadblocks you see inrepparttar 102022 here and now which prevent you from being who you want to be; Doing what you want to do: Having what you want to have.

The Power of Perspective

Written by Peter Murphy

You limit yourself. Yes, it is true. Each day you behave in muchrepparttar same way as you have always done. You act out your habitual ways of dealing with people, and you communicate as well or as badly as you normally do.

Although you know better, you do not apply all that you have learned when it comes to makingrepparttar 102011 most of yourself. If this is true for you, then how are you going to improve?

Awareness is key. Until you spot what you are doing you will not know where to make changes to how you talk to people. How can you change what needs to be improved if you do not see it yourself?

There is a very simple way to generate awareness of how you behave with other people. A way to develop perspective that is not clouded by your biased perceptions.

Three Steps to Powerful Perspective:

1 Be a neutral observer

Choose a recent conversation you had which did not go as well as you would have liked. Next, pretend for a moment that you are a neutral observer ofrepparttar 102012 conversation. In your imagination go back in time to that incident and see yourself talking to that other person. Picturerepparttar 102013 surroundings, hearrepparttar 102014 sounds and feelrepparttar 102015 atmosphere ofrepparttar 102016 place.

Then run throughrepparttar 102017 entire conversation again, only this time imagine that you arerepparttar 102018 neutral observer. See yourself andrepparttar 102019 other person talking and listening to each other and noticerepparttar 102020 dynamics ofrepparttar 102021 conversation. Pay special attention torepparttar 102022 non verbal reactions.

By doing this you will be gathering a lot of information that will be helpful in noticing what works and what does not work in your communication.

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