For Weight Loss It's Want Power You Need Not Will Power

Written by Kathryn Martyn, M.NLP

The problem isn't that you don't have enough will power to achieve what you want. You have will power, but it's not will power you need, it's want power.

You have to first want

You must want to change your habits, want to lose some weight, want to give up your evening snacking before your will comes into play. Once you want a thing badly enough, you will do whatever it takes.

If you think you want something (to make a change in your eating habits perhaps), but then find it difficult to follow-through with your plans, most likely you simply want your current reality (your current habits and patterns) more than you want your goals (less weight, better health, etc.)

I can hear you allrepparttar way over here, telling me I'm wrong: "No, that's not right! I want this more than anything, I just don't have any willpower!" Round and round you go, butrepparttar 131470 truth is, you will get what you really want. Think back, has there ever been a time when you really wanted something? A certain piece of clothing, a certain house, car, job, spouse? Hum... Yes, we go after what we want, if we really want to acquire or achieve it we do. Nothings going to fall in your lap, you've got to go get what you want.

What's Going on?

Put another way, you may want to avoidrepparttar 131471 pain (breaking old habits, avoiding some favorite foods, simply not overeating...) more than you want to gainrepparttar 131472 pleasure (losing some weight, gaining new habits, eating favorite foods in moderation ...)

Since losing weight takes time, from weeks to months to years, it's easy to fall offrepparttar 131473 path. It's always easier to get back into our old habits of eating, eating, and more eating. There's always more food. Unless you are too poor to purchase it, there's plenty food in America - in fact, too much food, and so it becomes even more necessary to keeprepparttar 131474 longer-term goals in mind.

How do you keeprepparttar 131475 longer-term goals in mind, whenrepparttar 131476 short-term food is staring you inrepparttar 131477 face? What about allrepparttar 131478 treats offered, what aboutrepparttar 131479 commercials,repparttar 131480 billboards,repparttar 131481 signs everywhere that say EAT?

Wanting, in fact, isrepparttar 131482 "W",repparttar 131483 first step inrepparttar 131484 W.H.A.C.K approach. See it inrepparttar 131485 free e-book, Changing Beliefs, Your First Step to Permanent Weight Loss.

Think back to when you last really wanted something. Wanted it more than anything, had to have it, would do just about anything to get it. To want is a mighty powerful motivator, but surprisingly we aren't all motivated by what we want. Some of us are motivated by avoiding what we don't want.

What is your Motivation Strategy?

Motivation comes in two (or more) flavors. You can be motivated towards something (what you'll gain) or you can be motivated away from something (what you'll lose). This desiring to avoid can be confusing. I'm saying you must want something, and you're thinking, but I don't want to be fat. I can't think about my future, only what I don't want. Here is what's going on:

How to Lose Weight During the Holidays Without Losing Friends

Written by Joey Dweck & The Editors at Weight Loss Buddy Press

It happens at every party: You swear that you’ll stick to your diet and you’re really sticking to your guns, popping crunchy baby carrots into your mouth like chocolate bon bons while everyone else is loading up on nachos and guacamole dip. Then someone – your mother who has been slaving overrepparttar hot stove all day, your Uncle Mike who has polished off three martinis, your best friend Mary who has been trying to lose 25 pounds forrepparttar 131466 last 25 years – steps up to your plate and fills it with an extra-large helping of guilt. “Come on, live a little. Just eat one piece,” your sister says as she tries to stuffrepparttar 131467 stuffing in your face. “It’s your favorite, and I made it just for you. I’ll be hurt if you don’t at least try it.” And before you know it, you’re having your and everyone else’s cake and eating it, too. Family and friends,repparttar 131468 people you expect to support you, arerepparttar 131469 very ones who are most likely to sabotage your diet, either consciously or subconsciously, and that’s why you need a neutral buddy to get you through not every wedding, birthday, bar mitzvah and holiday party, experts say. “When we sit down atrepparttar 131470 table, we’re all sort of comparing how we shape up withrepparttar 131471 other people there,” says Henrietta Harrison, a psychotherapist and life coach in Westport, Conn. “We’re all looking aroundrepparttar 131472 table to see who looks older than last year, who looks thinner, who looks heavier.” And when people indulge, adds Laura Cipullo, a registered dietitian and certified diabetes educator with offices in Manhattan, New Jersey and upstate New York, “typically they want others to be ‘bad’ with them and indulge, too.” But as Cipullo and Harrison point out, just because you are offeredrepparttar 131473 piece of homemade pumpkin pie doesn’t mean that you have to eatrepparttar 131474 whole thing. But it does mean that you can understand why you are being asked to eat it and then enlist your family and friends to help everyone beat their bad eating habits. “It can be threatening to a partner whenrepparttar 131475 other loses weight becauserepparttar 131476 thinner person will become more attractive to other people,” Harrison says. “When you lose weight, particularly if you are a woman, your confidence increases and it’s empowering. This can upsetrepparttar 131477 balance of power because as she gets more assertive, she becomes confident enough to change jobs, run forrepparttar 131478 PTA or even go back to work.” By making your family and friends your buddies, everybody winsrepparttar 131479 weight-loss game, Harrison and Cipullo say. “The buddy system is a good idea,” Cipullo says, “becauserepparttar 131480 entire family can be onrepparttar 131481 same page. If mom and dad are eating a certain way or one child is eating a certain way,repparttar 131482 whole family should be eating that way – healthy.” Outside buddies, who provide encouragement and help 24/7, also can be part of your weight-loss network. “I recommend having someone to talk to before, during and after you go to these events,” Harrison says. “Buddying up duringrepparttar 131483 holidays is crucial for people who are alone because you get companionship. You get someone on your team. is one way to do this. It is ideal for a lot of people because it’s like one-stop shopping.” Once you have a buddy, you can work together to changerepparttar 131484 menu for future parties. “Makerepparttar 131485 holidays less about food,” Cipullo says. “Meet for appetizers and drinks, not for formal sit-down dinners. Go ice skating or go for coffee or go out to a restaurant and choose your own food. Go out and look at holiday lights. Go for a manicure or a pedicure with your friends so you can sit around and chat and catch up.” And if your willpower does buckle underrepparttar 131486 mistletoe, remind yourself that it doesn’t have to be feast or famine. “When you learn to ride a bike, you sometimes fall off,” Harrison says. “And when you learn, you don’t learn to ride in a straight line; you weave back and forth and that’s how diets should be.”

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