Five Ways to Improve Any RelationshipWritten by Rinatta Paries
Want to improve your relationships, both romantic and otherwise? Want to grow in intimacy and closeness with your friends, family, co-workers, your special someone? Then include following five easy steps into your interactions with those important to you.
1. Acknowledge big and little things. People want to be seen. They want their actions, attitudes, feelings and aspirations to be noticed and acknowledged. Become a person who notices.
2. Give thanks and appreciation. Thank others and they are more likely to do more of same. Why? Because being thanked feels good. Tell them you appreciate it too.
3. Give 'just because' appreciation for who they are. Make a list of what you admire about your partner or another person. Now share that list with them. You don't have to wait for a special occasion. Surprise that special person any time.
4. Take active interest. Take a real interest in things important to others. Listen to them and have a conversation about their hobbies, career or interests. Learn something new about topic. It will make them feel understood and important.
Yes, You Can Say NoWritten by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee
It is perfectly OK to say, "No." You have permission. Many people do not like to disappoint others by saying, "No." They will tend to acquiesce even when overloaded. Sometimes those with need to please will agree to do something when it is not in their best interest just to be accommodating. Saying yes when we want or need to say no is a way to put others first. Indeed we don't want to hurt others' feelings, however we hurt our own when we overload ourselves and say yes to tasks that we don't want to or don't have time to do.
Saying "No" to things you do not want to do is a form of self-care. By saying "No" to things that you do not want to do makes time for things that you do want to do. Every time we say yes, we are saying no to something else. If we say yes to things we do not want to do, we are actually saying no to things that we do want to do. By saying yes to things we don't want to do we fill our lives with tasks that do not serve us, drain our energy, and are not supporting us in creating our best lives.