First Aid For The Soul

Written by Clive Taylor

First Aid For The Soul

A Model ofrepparttar dysfunctional, unconscious human psyche. A way through, from confusion to consciousness.

By CliveTaylor


Many people are lost and unhappy, with no clear sense of how to regain access to their true selves. Life seems too big, confusing and fragmented.

The following model of how our unconscious psyche works is based on extensive client-centered, therapy-based experience, backed up with years of personal research intorepparttar 126242 nature of consciousness.

The Model

Fromrepparttar 126243 very earliest time in our lives, we experience a range of situations and “inputs” to our experience of life. These experiences come in many forms: Positive and life enhancing, through to extremely abusive.

As this model is ofrepparttar 126244 dysfunctional psyche we will concentrate onrepparttar 126245 negative ones.

Abuse comes in many forms: Physical, sexual, emotional, spiritual and, possiblyrepparttar 126246 worst, abuse ofrepparttar 126247 sense of wonder ofrepparttar 126248 miracle of life. Abuse includes lack of real attention and being “delighted-in”, barrenness of environment (physical, emotional and “spiritual), neglect and abandonment.


Much of this happens to us before we have any intellectual or verbal concepts or understandings of howrepparttar 126249 world is and our place in it. So we create, totally unconsciously, “feeling-images” ofrepparttar 126250 world.

These feeling-images have no logic or rationality to them, but are whatrepparttar 126251 world is to us at this stage. These images are created very quickly, very early on.

Ifrepparttar 126252 experiences that have created these images continue, they reinforce and bed-inrepparttar 126253 imagery.

Belief structures (ideas of howrepparttar 126254 world is) begin to gather and build inrepparttar 126255 psyche, to make “sense” ofrepparttar 126256 feeling-images, and to bury them deep, away from our awareness, as they are usually too painful to leave exposed.

Our psyches isolate them in a way similar to an oyster isolating a painfully intrusive grain of sand. We suppress and forget them as completely as we can. (If we are willing, these feeling-images can be just as beautiful a gift-pearl to our intentions for personal growth, later in life!)

Our survival mechanism:

There is a part of our being that nature has set up to look after us. With complete and tireless diligence it followsrepparttar 126257 instructions we gave it, unknowingly, from that feeling-imagery, long ago.

It doesn’t matter how old we are, or how “successful” we seem to be, this isrepparttar 126258 place from where we operate our lives.

Being an Emotional Victim

Written by Margaret Paul

The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long asrepparttar author resource box atrepparttar 126241 end is included. Notification of publication would be appreciated.

Title: Being an Emotional Victim Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: Copyright: © 2003 by Margaret Paul Web Address: Word Count: 740 Category: Relationships/Emotional Healing


None of us like to think of ourselves as victims. The term "victim" brings to mind a pathetic image of a person who is powerless. Therefore, It comes as a shock to most of us to realize how often we allow ourselves to be emotional victims. Having counseled individuals, couples, families and business partners for 35 years, I know that many of us are victims much ofrepparttar 126242 time without realizing it.

We are being victims anytime we give another personrepparttar 126243 power to define our worth. We are being victims anytime we make approval, sex, things, a substance, or an activity responsible for our feelings of happiness and lovability. We are being victims anytime we blame another for our feelings of fear, anger, hurt, aloneness, jealousy, disappointment, and so on. Whenever we choose to define ourselves externally, we are handing away power to others and we then feel controlled by their choices. When we choose to define ourselves internally through our connection with our spiritual Guidance, we move into personal power and personal responsibility. The moment we sincerely want to learn about our own intrinsic worth and what behavior is in our highest good, and we ask Spirit, we will receive answers. Most people do not realize how easy it is to receive answers from a spiritual Source. The answers will pop into your mind in words or pictures, or you will experiencerepparttar 126244 answers through your feelings, when your sincere desire is to learn.

We always have two choices: we can try to find our happiness, peace, safety, security, lovability and worth through people, things, activities, and substances; or we can feel joyful, peaceful, safe, secure, lovable and worthy through connection with a spiritual Source of love and compassion - taking loving care of ourselves and loving others. Whenever we choose to find our happiness and safety through others, then we have to try to control them to give us what we want. Then, when they don't come through for us inrepparttar 126245 way we hoped they would, we feel victimized by their choices.

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