A Model of dysfunctional, unconscious human psyche. A way through, from confusion to consciousness.

By CliveTaylor

Introduction

Many people are lost and unhappy, with no clear sense of how to regain access to their true selves. Life seems too big, confusing and fragmented.

The following model of how our unconscious psyche works is based on extensive client-centered, therapy-based experience, backed up with years of personal research into nature of consciousness.

The Model

From very earliest time in our lives, we experience a range of situations and “inputs” to our experience of life. These experiences come in many forms: Positive and life enhancing, through to extremely abusive.

As this model is of dysfunctional psyche we will concentrate on negative ones.

Abuse comes in many forms: Physical, sexual, emotional, spiritual and, possibly worst, abuse of sense of wonder of miracle of life. Abuse includes lack of real attention and being “delighted-in”, barrenness of environment (physical, emotional and “spiritual), neglect and abandonment.

“Feeling-Images”

Much of this happens to us before we have any intellectual or verbal concepts or understandings of how world is and our place in it. So we create, totally unconsciously, “feeling-images” of world.

These feeling-images have no logic or rationality to them, but are what world is to us at this stage. These images are created very quickly, very early on.

If experiences that have created these images continue, they reinforce and bed-in imagery.

Belief structures (ideas of how world is) begin to gather and build in psyche, to make “sense” of feeling-images, and to bury them deep, away from our awareness, as they are usually too painful to leave exposed.

Our psyches isolate them in a way similar to an oyster isolating a painfully intrusive grain of sand. We suppress and forget them as completely as we can. (If we are willing, these feeling-images can be just as beautiful a gift-pearl to our intentions for personal growth, later in life!)

Our survival mechanism:

There is a part of our being that nature has set up to look after us. With complete and tireless diligence it follows instructions we gave it, unknowingly, from that feeling-imagery, long ago.

Title: Being an Emotional Victim Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2003 by Margaret Paul Web Address: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 740 Category: Relationships/Emotional Healing

BEING AN EMOTIONAL VICTIM By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

None of us like to think of ourselves as victims. The term "victim" brings to mind a pathetic image of a person who is powerless. Therefore, It comes as a shock to most of us to realize how often we allow ourselves to be emotional victims. Having counseled individuals, couples, families and business partners for 35 years, I know that many of us are victims much of time without realizing it.

We are being victims anytime we give another person power to define our worth. We are being victims anytime we make approval, sex, things, a substance, or an activity responsible for our feelings of happiness and lovability. We are being victims anytime we blame another for our feelings of fear, anger, hurt, aloneness, jealousy, disappointment, and so on. Whenever we choose to define ourselves externally, we are handing away power to others and we then feel controlled by their choices. When we choose to define ourselves internally through our connection with our spiritual Guidance, we move into personal power and personal responsibility. The moment we sincerely want to learn about our own intrinsic worth and what behavior is in our highest good, and we ask Spirit, we will receive answers. Most people do not realize how easy it is to receive answers from a spiritual Source. The answers will pop into your mind in words or pictures, or you will experience answers through your feelings, when your sincere desire is to learn.