Finding Your Ideal Career (or Business) Written by Maria Marsala
Want a career (or business) that brings a smile to your heart? Don't know exactly what that career might be? This list of ideas can start you on your way. Make process fun by scheduling a visit to your favorite place -- beach, mountains, whatever -- where you can compile your lists and daydream too!
Seven years ago, I completed process described below by trial and error -- or was it error and error?! I didn't have a non-biased person, such as my coach or a consultant to support and assist me in process. I created process as I went along. You are much luckier than I was at time! You have this Life Resume and you know where you can go to hire a coach!
Take an assessment test: personality, skills, etc. I have compiled a few lists of free online assessment tests and quizzes for you at www.coachmaria.com/articles.html Also check your local phone book for college career centers, career consultants, or career counselors who offer such tests and many other helpful services too. Online visit coach referral resources located at http://www.coachmaria.com/coaching.html
Start a new type of resume. List first paying job you had and then start writing all tasks you performed. You will not be graded on your penmanship... promise!
Compose a volunteer resume, same format as listed above - listing positions and tasks you performed.
Create a list of what you volunteered to do when you went to school. What organizations did you belong to? What projects did you volunteer for? If you're a mom and/or wife (dad or husband), add lists for those areas too! You're putting together a "this is your life resume".
Living Through LossWritten by Margot B
Usually words can't comfort grieving. Just being there in silence or listening is comforting. Nothing can change what has happened but being with bereaved is best we can do. The bereaved need companions who will truly listen and perhaps do some of small, everyday things that need doing--mowing lawn, changing oil in car, preparing a meal-- any number of things.Grieving is normal and unavoidable--it is a part of life, and it takes time. We donít get over it, we get through it. Going through grief is a series of stages: shock, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and then acceptance, which is first step. You must come to terms with your loss and accept that it is real and permanent. The stages of grief are not necessarily in this order, but it usually takes one or two years, or sometimes 4, 5 or more years for a person to work through loss of a child or spouse, as well as a divorce. The loss of a job, home, health, all require a significant amount of time to work through. There is no time frame. We canít control process and this makes us feel vulnerable and sensitive to outside stimuli. It needs to takes its natural course because if we try to deny our grief and keep our emotions bottled up inside, this can lead to chronic depression or physical illness. Recent research indicates that some kind of ceremonial farewell is helpful in aiding bereaved to adjust to death of someone close. We must acknowledge publicly and formally that something significant has happened or we may find more difficulty in grieving process.During grieving process, itís normal to cry, lose your appetite, and withdraw socially. Eventually instead of living moment-to-moment with our deep feeling of sadness, we will experience these feelings intermittently. Then we can think about getting back to work, resuming our social life, doing our routine daily tasks again, such as cleaning house, paying bills, caring for children--even if we sometimes have to ask for help from