Find Your Perfect PartnetWritten by David Wood
The mistake is to go looking, before cleaning up your own "back yard". The mistake is to seek someone because you're so desperately lonely, and don't feel happy with your own company. You may find a partner using this approach, but it often won't last, and will rarely lead to fulfillment. There's nothing wrong with this approach, and this newsletter won't stop anyone doing it. BUT - here's key to entering a great relationship: You want to be having such a great time that perfect partner notices you and says "Hey - can I play too?". If you are already happy with your own company, and loving your life, then skip straight to PART II - action section. If there are some things you're ready to handle in your own life - to prepare a more attractive space for a partner to come into and play - then read on. Try following check list (add up your score - 1 for each "true"): •I have a job I enjoy. •I am happy with my chosen friends and am well supported. •I am complete (nothing unresolved or unsaid) with my close family members and friends. •I do not fret about money. (I have a reserve of cash and/or regularly save a percentage of my income). •My home and bedroom are places I would feel comfortable inviting someone to spend time in. •I am happy with my current weight, appearance and way I dress. •I feel good about food I eat and my current exercise program. •I enjoy/am comfortable spending time alone. •I have found things to do alone (other than reading or watching TV) that I enjoy. •I am comfortable expressing myself. •My week is fun - I have found things to do that are so much fun that I'm not always looking around to see who I might meet.
| | Design Your Perfect LifestyleWritten by Davis Wood
We often fall into trap of thinking we have to wait until retirement to have our life be just right. (Of course, in retirement people often get bored.) So stop waiting! This article is written to help you design your ideal life. Then ask question: What would it take to have this NOW, or this year? If that's absolutely not possible (and it probably is, so look hard!), then you design a plan to reach that. Following is an extract of Perfect Lifestyle Program. (Better still, you can currently download full Program free of charge at www.life-coaching-resource.com Look for Design Your Life option.) Instructions: Print out following, and create a picture of your ideal lifestyle in following seven areas. Use questions as a guide and also add your own questions. Assume money is not an issue i.e. you have plenty. You can worry about HOW to get your picture later. Now dream! a) Self Care How many massages per week? How much drinking water per day? What kind of body? Exercise program? Diet? How much energy would I have? How many walks would I take? How much peaceful time/fresh air? How much sleep would I get? How do I dress? b) Home Environment Where would I live geographically? Which suburb? Which country? House/unit? On water? In country? Friendly community? Climate? What would my bedroom look like? My yard? How tidy is house? Do I have a cleaner? Someone who shops for me? Does washing? What car do I drive? c) Relationship From your partner, do you want a commitment for life, or a commitment for now? What kind of commitment do YOU want to make? Do you want an exclusive relationship, or one where you explore other relationships? To what limits? Kids? What's your ideal sex life? d) Friends and Family How many friends do you want in your life? Do they drop by spontaneously, or set up weeks in advance? Do your friends know your other friends? Are they rich? Interesting? Creative? Warm and Open? Or busy and stressed? Ideally, how would your relationship with your mother look? Father? Siblings? (Don't let your history block you here. Create 'ideal' relationships!
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