It would seem only natural to try to obtain such vital information in order to make a reasonable assessment as to whether your date could have potential.

However, most people, due to either being too uptight, or merely too busy playing “let me put on my best face front”, whether it’s you or just a fraction of you, do not probe for others’ values initially.

This, yet not brain surgery, can become quiet a hurdle to overcome even for most savvy of daters.

Unfortunately, it may take many dates to overcome this obstacle and if you find that this person, is indeed not someone worth proceeding with, then guess what? You not only may have wasted your money, but worst yet, you wasted that precious commodity called time..

Do this enough, and you can see and sympathize with good people who just want to find another good person to spend rest of their life with.

Certainly, I wouldn’t advocate anyone attempting hard-line approach with a prospective mate by asking them to “not beat around bush” or to “bottom-line me”.

This will more than likely cause a seemingly fun loving person to simply disregard you due to your edginess.

Therfore, if time is one of most important things in world and wasting it is like sleeping on a bed of nails; one would definitely have to discern that filtering and sifting others’ values prior moving forward, would assist in this crazy game.

Yes, days of going on blind dates and getting set up by others is still alive, but not as alive as it used to be, due to Internet, newspapers, and like.

With that said, this emerging concept allows a seeker to almost be able to pick and choose like shopping at local grocery store. This fact may sound crass, but it’s true, and this is where future of dating is heading, even though you still will find a more unafraid crowd which some people would call lonely hearts

Despite our best intentions, it is not always that we live by this ethical code that is deeply embedded in all of us.

Much of my writings are geared to logical approaches to a an overwhelming world and this is definitely no exception. I don’t want to underestimate importance of this concept because I feel it is so extremely powerful.

It is quite intriguing to me that this world is made up of so many beautiful, yet so many diluted and unscrupulous, minds. Obviously, people are not born with certain personality deficiencies, as much of it is learned behaviors.

To intimately understand and comprehend another’s feelings, thoughts, and motives is much of what empathy resonates.

However, this is easier said than done. An awesome way to truly understand your own set of values, is to genuinely approach life indiscrimanently with this viewpoint.

So how can empathy really help design a system of higher and lower values so easily?

It is just like Golden Rule says, treat everyone like you would want to be treated.

Would you want to be belittled constantly? No. Would you want to be disregarded by others? No. Does being disrespected hurt? Yes.

Temporarily plant your mind into another’s and attempt to understand their plights.

Although you may say, Brian, why should I always respect people when most of them have no respect for others anyway?

If our entire world treated each other in this manner, most everyone would have contempt for everyone else.

By taking a stroll in someone else’s shoes when dealing with all people; you automatically detach from very learned narcissism we all are accustomed to and approach your relationships more positively and kinder.

In my humble opinion, it is by far most selfless way to approach ones life, so to deny its significance would definitely be wrong!