Feelings - How To Handle Your Emotions

Written by Kali Munro, M.Ed., Psychotherapist


Intense emotion can be overwhelming for all of us. And if you're just opening up to an emotion, it can feel very raw. No matter how experienced you are with your emotions, we all need help sometimes to know how to deal with them.

Learning to recognize and stay with our feelings is a valuable experience. We can learn that just because we feel something, we don't have to act on it. Or that we can be angry and choose how to respond rather than letrepparttar anger control us. The more we know how we feel and ways to feel, release, be with, or let go of our feelings,repparttar 126249 better we feel about ourselves.

But how do I know what I'm feeling?

If you don't know how you feel or how to get in touch with your feelings:

1. Identify how you feel:

Sit quietly for a moment; you might want to close your eyes, and then wait and see what you notice from inside.

Notice how different areas of your body feel.

Focus onrepparttar 126250 areas of tension, breathe, and see if anything comes to your awareness. You donít have to think about it.

Notice whether any thoughts, images, feelings, memories, sounds come to you.

If nothing comes, thatís okay. You may still want to continue.

Ask yourself how you're feeling, and be aware of what comes up.

You donít have to figure anything out, just be aware.

If nothing comes to you, that's okay. Sometimes that happens. You may still want to try again, another time.

2. Acknowledge your feelings:

If you know how you feel, let yourself know that this is how you are feeling right now, and thatís okay.

You donít have to know where it is coming from.

You donít even have to know what to name it; you may simply know that you have a lot of pain in your chest.

Breathe through it.

Let your feelings just be there.

You donít have to do anything with them, just accept that this is how you feel.

But where do these feelings come from? They just seemed to come out ofrepparttar 126251 blue.

If you want to understand why you feel a certain way:

1. Identifyrepparttar 126252 source of your feelings:

Know that you are not being "silly" or "crazy" for feeling how you feel; your feelings are there for a good reason.

Turn inward, and ask yourself what are these feelings connected to.

Wait and see what you notice. You might just know. You might remember something, see an image, hear a sound, notice tension in a particular area of your body.

Try not to analyse, interpret or judge what comes to you. Be open to what you notice.

Go deeper. We may think we already know why we're feeling a certain way, but sometimes there is more to it than what we think. Being patient and receptive helps us to go deeper.

If nothing comes to you, thatís okay, too. It helps to just let yourself feel.

What do I do with these feelings?

2. Express or release your feelings.

Even if you don't know why you are feeling this way, you can still express yourself inrepparttar 126253 privacy of your own home.

Focus on how you feel. Open your mouth and let a sound come from that feeling.

Move withrepparttar 126254 feeling. You can dance, stomp around, kick, hit something.

Scream. If you are worried aboutrepparttar 126255 sound, you can scream into a pillow.

Fighting Terrorism With Enchantment - Part 2

Written by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein


Last week we discovered how THE ENCHANTED SELF's first three of The Seven Portals to Enchantment, preserve us from disenchantment and even worse -- terror. Let's look at some more ways that we can fight this madness and get back to a more positive way of life.

Let's enterrepparttar fourth portal: Making Ourselvesrepparttar 126248 Hero or Heroine of Our Own Lives. Ah, this is such an essential step. And yet what does stress and terror do? They can make us feel meaningless, without purpose, again emotionally flattened. What is good mental health? It encompasses, for sure, a sense that my life not only has meaning but also was worth it. I not only came through difficulties, butrepparttar 126249 adventure was well worth it! I tookrepparttar 126250 roller coaster ride of a lifetime and came outrepparttar 126251 winner.

Often times after a shocking event we don't know what role to play or feel extraneous to what is going on at 'ground zero'. These are normal feelings and we must realize that each of us has a unique role and purpose in life that no one else can fill.

Think aboutrepparttar 126252 story of your life. How did you get this far? How did your background end up working for you? What have been some ofrepparttar 126253 highlights of your life? Look forrepparttar 126254 heroic even on a very small scale. I can guarantee that you will have plenty of opportunities to still use your unique strengths and talents.

I wasrepparttar 126255 little girl who kept a secret Girl Scout diary with tons of misspelled words! I wrote every night not knowing exactly why and here I am now with a chance to write to you viarepparttar 126256 Internet. All that practice was part of my story. You have yours and never forget it!

Could you guess thatrepparttar 126257 fifth portal is Belonging to Tribes, or communities? Often after a terrorist attack people are afraid to go out, join others, go about their business. This is exactly whatrepparttar 126258 terrorists want and it interferes completely with our human needs to belong, to share, and to be part of something. What are some of your tribes special to you? I hope you make every effort to get out and stay connected to them. For me, one of my first steps was going to a local rally and crying, singing, holding hands with strangers and donating goods with lots of others.

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