Living Without Your Anger by Alan Tutt http://www.KeysToPower.comUp until several years ago, I was a champion 'angry person', in that just about everything in my life made me angry. If someone was unkind, or thoughtless, or selfish, or anything I didn't like, I got angry. And not just upset, but all-out, smoke rolling out of my ears, ANGRY!
But principles that I was learning led me to realize that every time I got angry, whether I expressed it or not, I was directing Power to create future experiences that would mimic or resonate with that anger. I knew that I had a problem to deal with.
I understand where philosophy of 'living with your anger' comes from, as well as philosophy of express it to get rid of it. But at least in my case, everything I expressed got easier to express, and it just grew and grew. I had to eliminate it completely.
And here's major thing that helped with that. Anger is feeling that things, situations, and people should be something they are not. Anger is judgment. If you take away judgment, you eliminate source of anger. Actually, this is one lesson learned from Buddhists. If you can eliminate your 'attachment' to world and conditions, you can reach 'enlightenment'.
I don't get angry anymore. Frustrated sometimes, but I remind myself that world is as it is, and I won't help anything by getting angry, upset, or frustrated.
The transformation in me was like transformation of a lifelong smoker who got scared out of habit (yes, anger is a habit) by reality of disease (cancer in case of smoker). There's a simple truth; your actions (and thoughts and feelings) today will create your reality tomorrow.
The transformation wasn't easy, but it did happen. I had to constantly remind myself that everything I thought and felt was directing Power to create my future. I had to ask myself for every little thing (whether anger was involved or not - to develop habit) "What kind of future do you want to create?"