FEAR – Don’t Let it Control You!Written by Glen Hopkins
Fear. What is it? Can you touch it? Can you hold it? Can you show it to another person? I can almost hear you from where I am sitting. “No, no, no”. Okay then, so you can’t touch it, you can’t hold it, and you can’t show it to another person. The question then is, why? Why do we have fear? Fear is nothing more than an emotion or a feeling that we hold in our mind. We fear either emotional or physical pain something may cause. The problem is, these emotions and feeling affect way we live our lives. We fear doing certain things because we think we might fail. This may be due to past failures we have actually experienced or it may be due to failures we fear we might experience. I urge you to remember and live by following motto. Fear stands for, False Evidence that Appears Real Most of time what we fear, we have never even experienced! Isn’t that crazy? You see, your mind has a hard time determining whether you’ve actually experienced failure or just imagined it. Either way, you feel physiological symptoms of fear; such as an upset stomach. Often, because we can imagine some sort of failure, we believe it will come true, and then we don’t even try! And that is what makes a failure; a person who is afraid to try because they fear potential of a negative outcome. If you don’t at least try, you can never succeed. “I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.” - Mark Twain The question now becomes who defines what ‘failure’ and ‘success’ is? You do right? Either you create definition yourself or you accept someone else’s definition. Is it true then that some people create more difficult definitions of success and failure for themselves than others do? You bet it is! Who do you think leads a more successful live, Alex who defines success as, “everyday that I wake up and I’m not six feet under, is a great day.” Or Jeff, who defines success as, “I have to be earning at least million dollars a year before I am successful.” You guessed right again. Alex. You see, Alex has created her own definition of what success means and that definition is relatively easy to achieve! Therefore, in her mind, she is successful everyday. Whereas Jeff, as per his own definition, cannot be successful until he is earning one million dollars a year. What are chances that most of ‘Jeff’s’ in world feel like failures on a daily basis because they are not yet earning one million dollars a year? Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that you should not set high standards and goals for yourself. What I am saying is that you have to be careful that you ‘happily achieve, rather than achieve to be happy’.
| | Hidden secrets of your personalityWritten by Nilesh B Gore
|| Hidden Secret of your personality ||By Nilesh Gore : ng411002@rediffmail.com Have you ever thought – your personality will be judged by “how words you use” ? Have you Ever thought – “Your words can affect hereditary process”? You will come to know most exclusive facts about yourself….. go ahead. TAHC=P cycle >> it is stand for :- Thought > Action > Habit > Character = Personality. As thought generated by mind- It commands to do an Action – An loop of action makes Habit- Continuous use of habit make changes in Character of us and character seems in form of personality. Mind is very mystic and provide two way programming for brain, Our thought are controlled by listening, writing, speaking. Our personality has power to affect next more than 100 generations by process of hereditary. Now our vocabulary, it plays very Imp role in life. The words we speak shows personality of a person. As I told before that mind provide two way programming that is our way of processing thoughts are controlled way we speak & then THAC cycle shows its color. An Imp fact 4u that :- Words (vocabulary) are tools, Speaking/talking is process to use that tools, better use of tools best result. Now understand it scientifically > talking/speaking is a PSYCHO-NURAL-MUSCULAR activity which is a help-bridge and integrate conscious and subconscious mind to distills- crystallize & clarifies thoughts(THAC=P). The person who speak blunt always uses blunt words, in-fact persons mind gives command (subconsciously) to use blunt words. There are synonyms and Antonym, Positive and negative. Listen, there is no much explanation how we use words but following example will make understand everything. I just want to say that Vocabulary can be toxic if we use words in a improper way. Egs. Don’t Fall Bowl >> Hold Bowl Tight. (Now imagine child is playing with bowl and suddenly her mom(elder) sees so and says “Don’t Fall Bowl “ child thinks mom is saying so because bowl is just about to fall and over a period of time he does so. The proper way was “Hold Bowl Tight” , here child thinks a little carelessness will result in broken pieces so he holds tight. ) As far as parents concern to change child’s destiny apart form other aspect- parents vocabulary must be very positive-influencing & strong. I’m Stubborn, I’m Stupid, I’m duffer, I Could, I couldn’t. and so on. Habit of speaking such words makes people so. Listen, it is very Interesting now, if a child did not received /listen proper words during childhood it is very difficult for such child to develop an +ve language. (few peoples who has high self-esteem are exceptional) Eg >>>> during childhood, if parents are saying “you are useless” / “silly”/ “Can’t do a tiny work properly” and so on. After childhood child thinks that my parents are right I’m “silly” and he(Subconscious) always acts in that way, coz he knows whatever he going to do will be termed as “silly”. & develops such habits. Only self-Motivated peoples are exception about this. Eg>>>>>>>>> See difference how person will act if choose betn A & B A1] I’m very weak in maths B1] I’m building my maths A1] don’t make mistakes B1] do it in right way. A2] Don’t drive fast B2] Drive Safe. A3] never join bad company B3] Choose right peoples See difference between A1 & B1. person who programs himself by saying (a1) “I’m very weak in maths” will always have poor results in maths. In case of b1 - his mind keeps him reducing mistakes & keeps building ability. I hope now u have got an idea to use words properly i.e. “Mind your Language”
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