If you’re interested in meeting new people to date, Internet match services are a great new option. The number of people joining them is staggering.
If you’re new to experience, here’s an FAQ for you:
Q: How can I be sure he’s not married? How can I be sure she’s not a felon? A: The bottom line – there are no guarantees about this or anything else in life. Unfortunately, deceptive people are good at deception and you can’t always tell. With time, experience and common sense you can pick up on “red flags” earlier. In your favor is fact that people tend to reveal more with anonymity of Internet than in real life. From experience, I can tell you it’s likely you’ll be able to tell by their language and by their questions. They “spill.” For tips, email me for my free white paper, “How to Tell if Man You’re Dating is Married.”
Q: How can I avoid alcoholics and addicts? A: Again only time will tell, but here’s one tip. When person checks “don’t drink”, this is a yellow flag, not a green light. Find out WHY they “don’t drink”.
Q: Do websites screen applicants? A: The good news is that some say they do. The bad news is they do it by requiring all registrants give their social security number. This will limit selection as many good single folks aren’t willing to put their social security numbers on Internet.
Q: There are so many websites. What sites should I register on? A: Use your EQ to make selection. Intuitively, when you go site it will appeal to you or not. On one site, people sign in as “SeXy Fox” and “ReadyWillingAndAble”. On another, they use their first names, “Sam” or “Martha.” Which is one for you? Are you after a man who leads with “Italian Stallion” or simply uses his name? Is someone who calls himself “C” hiding something or too “closed” for your tastes? The way sites phrase their questions can alert you to style as well.
Q: What type of person uses these sites? Q: Everyone’s using sites, but it’s especially well-suited for introverts. The normal progression is website, to normal email, to telephone calls to meeting in person. Introverts like a slow get-to-know-you. If you like introverts, you’ll find more of them on Internet dating sites than in local bars and social groups. Extraverts tend to jump steps in process. Extraverts you can meet out and about.
Q: I’m sick of men (women) who just want a brief affair. I want marriage. How can I find someone else who wants what I want? A: That’s good – know what you want. Some sites let you choose an array of desires from penpals, to friendship, to marriage, so there’s one clue. Otherwise, only way you’ll know is to ask and find out.
Q: What kind of questions should I ask? A: Eharmony.com (http://tinyurl.com/2lyea ) has a long list of pre-selected questions you send back and forth that are good. Each time you have contact with someone and it works out or doesn’t, figure out early clues and save yourself some time. You’ll quickly learn that when someone asks you a certain question right-off, they’re not one for you. Their initial choices reveal a lot if you’re paying attention.