"Extramarital Affair: Should You Get A Divorce Just Because One Of You Had An Extramarital Affair?"

Written by Karl Augustine


Having to deal with an extramarital affair can be a life-changing event, regardless of whether you stay married or not. Inescapable feelings can come over both people that will never be forgotten by either of them. The person who actually hadrepparttar extramarital affair can have feelings of guilt, loneliness, confusion and misdirection along with many other feelings. The 'partner' who did not haverepparttar 111088 extramarital affair can have these feelings as well, butrepparttar 111089 lack of confidence that can come as a result ofrepparttar 111090 other person having an extramarital affair can be one ofrepparttar 111091 toughest parts to deal with.

The feelings that come as a result of one or both parties having an extramarital affair are natural but can also be extensions of something much deeper. Of course, if someone has an extramarital affair, both people in that marriage will have feelings that will be "surface level" only at first. Arguments can occur, denial may set in, and/or tempers can flare due torepparttar 111092 extramarital affair. While these things are only natural and to be expected, if your going to actually survive an extramarital affair, you must look atrepparttar 111093 deeper issues and get down torepparttar 111094 real cause ofrepparttar 111095 affair and what to do about it.

People in marriages don't often look at having extramarital affairs lightly, and they realize most times what affects their actions will have on their marriage. If someone has an extramarital affair and doesn't think that it will have an affect on their marriage, surely they are either in denial or their definition of marriage leans strongly towardsrepparttar 111096 "open" side. Forrepparttar 111097 rest ofrepparttar 111098 married crowd who don't subscribe to an "open" marriage and who have to deal with an extramarital affair, things can get a bit more complex.

Complexity can be interesting no doubt, but it can also add torepparttar 111099 confusion of someone having an extramarital affair, especially ifrepparttar 111100 couple or one party in that couple wants to look deeper atrepparttar 111101 situation and figure out two very important things:

1. Why didrepparttar 111102 extramarital affair happen?

2. Doesrepparttar 111103 fact that there was an extramarital affair inrepparttar 111104 marriage really warrant getting a divorce when both people agree uponrepparttar 111105 reason thatrepparttar 111106 extramarital affair happened inrepparttar 111107 first place?

take the child's perspective

Written by Darrin F. Coe, MA


Over 90 per cent of American parents rely on physical punishment to correct children’s behavior, according to The Journal of Sociology. 1999. That statistic scares me. I’d like every parent or person in a position of trust to takerepparttar child’s perspective before you impose physical punishment. How would feel if you were only three feet tall and an adult was looming over you, yelling, screaming, and swinging their hands in your direction? Considerrepparttar 111087 fear this could instill. Imaginerepparttar 111088 confusion asrepparttar 111089 person who is supposed to nurture you, and provide you with safety, imposes some level of inescapable pain on you. Would you scream, cry, act out, or run away? We should ask ourselves, “What are we teaching children by imposing physical punishment?” I see a moral paradox in teaching a child not to hit by hitting them or teaching them not to scream by yelling at them. One ofrepparttar 111090 most trying times in many parents day is bedtime. Parents seem to think that children should automatically fall asleep. Perhaps paddling or shouting will intimidate them enough to “shut up and go to sleep” when it’s not automatic. Takerepparttar 111091 child’s perspective. Have you ever had insomnia? Would getting slapped out of frustration convince you to fall asleep? Have you ever tossed and turned all night? Do you sleep well when you’re scared? Children are no different.

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