Examples of Emotional Intelligence from Popular Songs

Written by Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, cEQc, The EQ Coach

It's hard to find a song that isn't about 'the war ofrepparttar brains'. Because we have three brains that are often in conflict with one another (reptilian, limbic and neocortex), we suffer conflict, guilt and shame.

And because our brains arerepparttar 126183 way they are, we arerepparttar 126184 way we are, -- we endure love, grief, excitement, inconvenient passions, attempts at rational control, impotent anger andrepparttar 126185 need to push torepparttar 126186 head ofrepparttar 126187 line. And we do dumb things like fool around with Jose's faithless girl. (Don't go there!)

EQ is about experiencing and managing those emotions -- yours and theirs -- and it's in all our songs.

It used to berepparttar 126188 Western tradition to have a poet laureate – starting in England inrepparttar 126189 1600s, appointed for poetic excellence and being a salaried member ofrepparttar 126190 royal household with no official duties, they spokerepparttar 126191 feelings forrepparttar 126192 people. (Poets laureate of England included Jonson, Dryden, Wordsworth and Tennyson, among others.)

Though states inrepparttar 126193 US continue to appoint poets laureate, poetry is no longer “popular” (as in 'enjoyed by many people') and their original function is now filled by our popular music.

EQ is about experiencing and managing those emotions -- yours and theirs -- and it's in all our songs.

1. Kodachrome (Paul Simon) / EQ can matter more than IQ, especially when it means being able to "readrepparttar 126194 writing onrepparttar 126195 wall"

When I think back on allrepparttar 126196 k*** I learned in high school, it’s a wonder I can think at all, and my lack of education hasn't hurt me none, I can readrepparttar 126197 writing onrepparttar 126198 wall.

2. Heaven’s Just a Sin Away (The Kendalls) / Primitive (Reptilian) Brain’s winning out over limbic and neocortex

Heaven’s just a sin away, just a sin away, can't wait another day, I think I'm giving in. How I'd love to hold you tight, be with you tonight, that still won't make it right, 'cause I belong to him. Way down deep inside, I know that it's all wrong, your eyes keep tempting me, and I never was that strong. The devil's got me now, gone and got me now, I can't fight him any how, I think he's gonna win ... Heaven help me when I say, I think I'm giving in.

3. The Girls All Get Prettier at Closing Time (Mickey Gilley) / Reality check, chemical , low impulse control and intentionality, low EQ

Ain’t it funny, ain’t it strange, how a man’s opinion changes when he starts to face that lonely night... The girls all get prettier at closing time, they all begin to look like movie stars. If I could rate 'em on a scale from 1-10, I'm looking for a 9, but 8 could work right in. A few more drinks, and I might slip to 5 or even 4, and when tomorrow morning comes and I wake up with a number 1, I swear I'll never do it any more.

4. Count on Me (The Statler Brothers) / Empathy, communication, interpersonal skills, intuition, high EQ, what a couple

I can tell by looking, you've got feelings in your heart you're hoping no one else can see. But you can't hide feelings from someone who cares. Open up and let it out, and count on me. Count on me (for doing my share), Count on me (you know that I care), Count on me (I'll always be there), Count on me. Count on me (when others won't hear), Count on me (when there's no one else near), Count on me (I'll be right here), Count on me. I hearrepparttar 126199 sounds you're saying, butrepparttar 126200 words don't ring true, there's something here that didn't used to be. If there's something deep inside you, tell me now what you need, and together we can heal it, count on me.

The Tiger & the Tiger Within: Roy Horn and Montecore

Written by Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, cEQc, The EQ Coach™

Roy Horn and Siegfried Fishbacher have performed around 5,700 shows since they began atrepparttar Mirage in Las Vegas over ten years ago. The signature of their magic show has been their white tigers and lions.

Six shows a week, 44 weeks a year they worked with their big cats on stage, and not once has there been an incident.

In fact, according to reports, Montecore nipped at Roy’s arm earlier inrepparttar 126182 show before carrying him off stage and seriously injuring him, without leaving any bite marks.

Which is more than I can say about Baby Kittee here at my own house. I know all about Baby Kittee. She is, to quote William Blake, “red in tooth and claw.” As I vacuum aroundrepparttar 126183 house, I find wings, scales, tails and other remnants of her nature. Her name was chosen by my granddaughter. It might as well have been “Fluffy Killer.” Cats are always one generation away from feral; they do not permanently domesticate, likerepparttar 126184 dog.

Now did you catch that 6 shows a week? According to Horn’s surgeon, Dr. Derek Duke, “A contributing factor to [Roy’s] current condition is his extraordinary will and strong physical attributes. These are significant elements in his ability to recover.” Indeed his “thumbs-up” signal to his partner has been mentioned by reporters.

We are told that as he was carried away, he asked thatrepparttar 126185 cat not be put down. “Please don’t shootrepparttar 126186 cat,” he said. “Saverepparttar 126187 cat.”

It was Roy Horn’s 59th birthday (October 23, 2003) when he was performing on stage withrepparttar 126188 7-year-old, 600 pound Royal white tiger, Montecore, thatrepparttar 126189 cat injured him.

Reports fromrepparttar 126190 shocked observers varied, butrepparttar 126191 consensus, now that some time has passed, is thatrepparttar 126192 tiger became fascinated with a woman’s “big hair” inrepparttar 126193 audience, even torepparttar 126194 point of lying down onrepparttar 126195 job, at which point Roy bopped him to get his attention.

Roy then endeavored to stay betweenrepparttar 126196 cat andrepparttar 126197 woman (what’s withrepparttar 126198 “big hair”?) and it was at this point he fell, stage hands rushed forward, and Montecore took action. According torepparttar 126199 head ofrepparttar 126200 Mirage (Mr. Wynne), he didn’t “drag” Roy offstage, nor did he “attack” or “grab” him.

Siegfried and other big cat experts agree that if Montecore had meant to dorepparttar 126201 job, he would have shaken him to break his neck, and, as Siegfried said, “There would be no Roy.”

Instead Wynn describes it as a gentle “carry,” like a mother cat carrying her kitten off to safety. It is entirely possible Montecore was heading back to his cage and taking what he cared about with him.

In interviews, Roy talks continually of his bonding with his cats. He is present at their birth, and keeps constant company with them.

We know that bonding can occur between all mammals because ofrepparttar 126202 limbic brain we share in common. It is how we bond to our own young, and to one another, as do dogs, cats, horses, and other mammals.

Ironically, in my Emotional Intelligence courses ( http://www.susandunn.cc ), I use “the tiger within" to describe those primitive-brain emotions or instincts that occur automatically that have to do with fear, aggression and self-preservation.

Psychologists call itrepparttar 126203 3F reaction – fight, flight, or canoodle. And that’s aboutrepparttar 126204 only decision reptiles, and lower animals ever have to make. They learn rarely, if at all; they react to their environment in terms of what it can do to them or for them; and they don't with each other or with their young - in fact they'll eat them.

We retain this brain. To this we evolvedrepparttar 126205 limbic brain (mammalian), what makes us care for our young, bond, be able to empathize, communicate and play ... and why when we look intorepparttar 126206 eyes of one another, or another mammal, we see soul, we feel a sentient being. It initiates mutual caring.

If that frog inrepparttar 126207 example were actually inrepparttar 126208 boiling water calling out, would it tear at your heartrepparttar 126209 way a baby’s cry does, orrepparttar 126210 wailing of your dog when you leave inrepparttar 126211 morning??

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