It’s amazing how we fool ourselves... while at same time believing we are doing what’s best.
Let me give you an example. I overheard a guy telling a group of friends, over drinks, how he had become fed-up with work. Guys being guys, they immediately started to come up with options to fix problem – ideas like changing company and changing jobs. That was when guy got all logical…
‘Yeah, but I need to pay mortgage and my kid’s education and we’ve got a holiday planned for Bahamas and…’
I interrupted. ‘How much do you need?’
‘A hundred grand a year,’ he replied.
‘What’s more important,’ I asked, ‘your happiness or money?’
Of course he said happiness. Then he got all logical again. ‘But I can’t be happy unless I can pay mortgage and give my kids best and have great holidays.’
‘How many hours do you work?’
‘And how do you feel when you get home?’
‘What would your kids prefer, a father who is worn out for forty eight weeks of year but has four weeks to entertain them per year or a dad who is a real Dad all year round?’
The conversation went on, me questioning, him justifying what he perceived as logic.
Yet it’s not logic, is it? It’s not logic to deny your heart’s desire to change life when it’s hurting you. The mortgage, kid’s education, holidays are just stuff. And, like most people find after a heart attack or a divorce or an accident, is that this ‘stuff’ is not that important. What’s important is something else…