Enhancing Vulnerability To Master PerfectionismWritten by Kate Hufstetler
One of ways a person must advance past perfectionism is to deal with and gradually become more and more vulnerable. Every good perfectionist knows that this is VERY scary. • Vulnerability involves allowing oneself to be open to feedback—both positive and negative from others. • Vulnerability also involves real risk that a perfectionist will have to experience moments of fragility, weakness, and pain. • Vulnerability means risking feeling trapped in a situation—either by circumstance, or emotion, or mental blocks. • Vulnerability takes one through unknown waters of life on life’s terms. • With vulnerability, one is able to look backwards and glean all lessons, compile their history, learn and become a much stronger individual!! • Yet being vulnerable, even with one trusted ally, allows former perfectionist to slowly evolve: to slowly see themselves, their life, their history… and to be ok. Some suggestions: * First you will need to enlist help of at least one outside person for accurate feedback. This can be a trusted friend, a pastor, chaplain, sponsor, or coach. You are to seek out someone that you can develop closeness to, someone that you feel safe with: someone that will verifiably love and support you while you take these risks in opening up.
| | Dial M for Mindfulness: Using the Golden ArchesWritten by Maya Talisman Frost
Looking for mindfulness? Who ya gonna call? Try dialing M. It's easy to be mindful. It's just hard to remember to be mindful. That's why it's so important to pick our triggers. Here's a great trigger for mindfulness--the letter M. I'm a great fan of letter M. For me, it stands for mindfulness, meditation, mediation and mind massage. It's soothing to say: "Mmmmmmm." Add an H and you're thinking: "Hmmmmm." Add an O and you're chanting: "Ommmmmmm." It's hard to go wrong with M. Okay, but in course of your day, with all M-words you hear, say and see, how can you possibly remember to be mindful each time? You can't. That's why you need to choose ONE M for your mindfulness trigger, and I've got perfect one: McDonald's golden arches. No, really. Think about it. You've already got your own ideas about McDonald's. Maybe you love McDonald's food. Maybe you appreciate convenience of a drive-thru breakfast when you're on road. Maybe you hate its corporate identity. Maybe you've seen "Super-Size Me" and all you can think about is poor Morgan Spurlock getting hypertension in his month-of-McDonald's-food experiment. Maybe you feel guilty that you like McDonald's food. Maybe you feel upset that you feel guilty. Whether you love to hate McDonald's or hate to love it, those golden arches are a complex trigger. It's time for a little piggybacking--intentionally superimposing a new concept on an already loaded one. Here's how it works: The first time each day that you see McDonald's golden arches--the sign itself, logo on a paper bag, an image on a television commercial--simply say, "I am mindful." That's it.
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