Emotional Intelligence - Understanding your own emotions and those of others, and being able to use this information to bring about best outcome for all concerned. Knowing where emotions come from and being able to manage your own and those of others. Knowing what emotions mean and what information they are providing. Being able to work well with others as well as alone. Being able to combine cognitive knowledge with emotional knowledge and use them in tandem.

Cognitive Intelligence - Intellectual abilities such as logic, reason, reading, writing, analyzing and prioritizing. These go on in your own head and utilize only neocortex, not emotional centers of brain which also provide crucial information. These abilities do not require any social skills per se, i.e., you can solve a math equation by yourself, or write an essay, or balance a business’ books by yourself. COMPARISONS

Being effective both alone and as a team player vs. Only effective when working alone

Being able to manage your own emotions vs. Having temper tantrums, sulking or withdrawing

Being able to empathize with others and knowing where they're coming from vs. Not being able to grasp feelings of others and understand how emotions are affecting situation

Using an emotional appeal to convince someone of something v. Using an intellectual appeal to convince someone of something

Knowing that motivation is a feeling word v. Thinking that motivation is a thinking word

EXAMPLE

This is a very different statement than person who says, “I intend to have this new business up and running within one year.”

If you haven’t heard that last sort of statement much, it’s because it usually doesn’t come out in casual conversation, where vague dreams are bandied about. It tends to show up in actions, such as a business plan, a spreadsheet, contracting with a coach, making an appointment with an intellectual property attorney, or selling an asset to build capital to endure some lean months.

There’s a crucial difference between “willing to do something” and “wanting to do something.” Of course it reminds us of term “willpower,” which means you are managing yourself toward an outcome. Your “will” is what you use when you are putting pressure on yourself to accomplish something and directing your behavior, with focus.

It’s also when you don’t want to do something, i.e., we talk about dieting taking will power. Willing to do something requires a thought-process and then a chain of action-events. In Emotional Intelligence, we call thought process that precedes this determined action “Intentionality.” Now let’s take a look at difference between “willing to” and “wanting to.”

DEFINITIONS

Willing to - Used to express determination, insistence, persistence, or willfulness (I have made up my mind to go and go I will); used to express inevitability. Shows Intentionality. Used to express a command, exhortation, or injunction, or commitment to act in a certain way to make something happen.

Wanting to - To desire something, to have a strong inclination toward it, to wish for something. Implies no action or intent.

COMPARISONS

You're determined to what it takes vs. You may not take any action at all