Emotional Intelligence: The Basics

Written by Michael G. Rayel, MD

There’s so much talk about emotional intelligence and how it can promote personal and business success. What is it really? What are its basic tenets?

Emotional intelligence isrepparttar capacity to recognize, understand, and manage one’s emotions and that of others. This “intelligent” concept focuses onrepparttar 105763 role of emotion in our daily lives and how it affects our perception, reasoning, and behavior.

Emotions are pervasive in our daily existence. Fromrepparttar 105764 time we wake up torepparttar 105765 time we retire to bed, we experience emotions. We can get excited byrepparttar 105766 news of economic recovery, or we feel upset when our favorite team loses a championship game.

Moreover, we can get lonely when our friend of many years decides to look for greener pastures and we can feel anxious when our child does not go home on time after class.

So really, emotions happen everywhere and anytime. There is no day that passes by without emotions being involved. We experience emotions when we - win or lose, receive phone calls from long lost friends, greet our children good morning, say hello to our neighbors, prepare meals for our spouses, or riderepparttar 105767 subway train.

Emotions are just as normal asrepparttar 105768 rising ofrepparttar 105769 sun.

However, there are times when our emotions can become overwhelming and can negatively affect our functioning. For instance, anger is normal. However,repparttar 105770 inappropriate display of uncontrolled anger can be destructive.

Let me clarify this point with a hypothetical situation. Richard, a relatively nice guy who works as a salesman, is married for 5 years with Cynthia. Forrepparttar 105771 past few years, his sales have plummeted due to some unknown reasons. He used to be mild-mannered but lately he hasn’t beenrepparttar 105772 same.

The Sheep Syndrome

Written by Ieuan Dolby

Man has this amazing ability to copy, to follow, to be led or he has a driving wish to be exactlyrepparttar same as those around him. It is calledrepparttar 105762 sheep syndrome. The next door neighbors have just got a ten speed lawnmower ….. allrepparttar 105763 kids at school have one……the dot.com bubble …………. fashionable/trendy ……….I want to berepparttar 105764 same ……..and so on downrepparttar 105765 trail!

An immense example of misplaced sheep syndrome isrepparttar 105766 current British mind set of buying of property in another country. Millions of middle-class and average people have given over their life savings in return for a square piece of land with a debatable construction sitting on it, in Spain, in Cyprus, Florida, et al! Not only have they handed over all that they have ever had but given it in return for something that lies a thousand miles away and that oncerepparttar 105767 excitement has worn off will become a costly burden that is visited only twice a year, if that! Yet, it is fashionable; it isrepparttar 105768 ‘sensible’ thing to do, to buy some property in rural Turkey, just likerepparttar 105769 neighbors have bought. It is profitable to buy a three bed-roomed house in Florida, becauserepparttar 105770 brochure said we could rent it back out when we don’t use it! The agent said thatrepparttar 105771 price is inclusive ………and so it goes on, each prospective buyer convinced that it is a wise thing to do in life and nobody saying otherwise because it isrepparttar 105772 trend,repparttar 105773 sheep syndrome in action!

Another large example of man following man wasrepparttar 105774 YK2 period of disaster prediction! Somebody casually observed that computer clocks might not cope withrepparttar 105775 change over torepparttar 105776 new millennium because nobody had thought about it before, despiterepparttar 105777 fact that it was only a couple of years away! So what happened was a mad panic and had somebody said ‘boo’ in a rather large voice stampedes would have occurred, cities would have evacuated themselves and wars would have started. But what happened was that rumors and counter rumors spread like wildfire, rivers of possible scary scenarios ricocheted aroundrepparttar 105778 world andrepparttar 105779 public became so infused with impending disaster they just didn’t know which way to turn.

At least four years beforerepparttar 105780 turn ofrepparttar 105781 centuryrepparttar 105782 process of panic indoctrination started and people rapidly became suffused with fear. The US government set up a command center at an initial cost of 50 million dollars to cope withrepparttar 105783 impending crisis and throughout it all computer geeks and companies made fortunes as they set up Y2K software companies and became solemn experts onrepparttar 105784 subject! Billions of Dollars, Pounds, Dong, etc. was spent on new equipment that had stickers plastered all over them that read, “I am Y2K compliant”, and power station night security guards lied without embarrassment to have their night off starting onrepparttar 105785 31st December!

Planes were going to fall out ofrepparttar 105786 sky at midnight. Russian missiles were going to arm themselves, to shoot acrossrepparttar 105787 oceans and to land inrepparttar 105788 middle of Sunset Boulevard! And lights would just switch off, water would stop coming out ofrepparttar 105789 taps and bank machines would never again issue another note simply becauserepparttar 105790 big hand could not quite get pastrepparttar 105791 top ofrepparttar 105792 hour!

The end ofrepparttar 105793 world is nigh.

Whenrepparttar 105794 actual turning point came, nothing astounding or untoward happened! Planes did not collide in mid-air, nuclear explosions fromrepparttar 105795 local power station did not light uprepparttar 105796 night skies and little aliens with green heads did not land to take overrepparttar 105797 world! The only real tremors and aftershocks felt were a direct result ofrepparttar 105798 panic build-up of previous. Those who had stockpiled food in their underground bunkers had year’s worth of baked beans to work through; those who had stockpiled goods suddenly found out that their life savings were now invested in a worthless pile of batteries, torches and gas lamps that nobody really wanted anymore. Banks had problems on Monday morning as customers queued up to re-open closed accounts (money withdrawn because banks vaults would never open again) and portable bunker rental firms found it difficult to cope as their goods were returned in quick order!

Allrepparttar 105799 sheep should have felt very sheepish indeed but true to form, and because everybody was inrepparttar 105800 same boat they just found other sheep trails to follow.

The sheep syndrome is very much a deep rooted fear of being different, of beingrepparttar 105801 odd man out, to be an outcast of a certain group whether it is social, work or family! This fear is ingrained from birth, so deeply that for mostrepparttar 105802 knowledge of its existence is not known. For most peoplerepparttar 105803 eagerness to berepparttar 105804 same, to be an active and popular member of a group overrides any thought as to why they really want this and thusrepparttar 105805 fear is pushed and kept far away and dusty inrepparttar 105806 nether regions ofrepparttar 105807 mind. Fromrepparttar 105808 day that we are bornrepparttar 105809 conditioning starts. Parents give to their children what other children of that age group have, for these children in turn to want what those other children have and in time to give their very own offspring what they feel that they should have. As humans we tend to operate and guide ourselves throughrepparttar 105810 maze of life by copying, following and fitting in, our sole guide being what is around us. We tend not to step outside ofrepparttar 105811 circle that we are in, we tend not to think alone or to act differently because of that simple deep rooted fear of being cast aside or ignored.

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