Emergency LivingWritten by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD
There are times, when I am driving in my car being passed by so many other cars speeding along, that I could swear there is an emergency somewhere and I wasn't invited. It seems everyone is in a hurry to get somewhere. The other day I was sitting at a red light, light turned green and car in front of me sped away. At next traffic light same car was sitting in front of me and, when light turned green, off car sped. This went on for three lights. I must say that I was rather amused that this speed demon only seemed to be speeding to a red light, and wasn't getting any further along than I was. In life, this same phenomenon can happen. Going faster doesn't mean we will get where we are going any sooner. We just burn more energy, or gas if we are in car, than we would if we went at a much safer speed.
I am reminded of Stephen Covey's quadrants. Tasks are classified as important, but not urgent or important and urgent. Most things don't fall into important and urgent quadrant. In fact, few things do, but many of us operate out of that quadrant. We treat everything like it is an emergency, and we rush around putting out fires that don't exist. The problem with treating everything like an emergency is, when we really have one, we might not recognize it or we will be so burned out that we won't be able to deal with it properly.
If you are not sure whether you are emergency living here is a list of signs: - You are consistently five to ten minutes late - Clutter has become a way of life - You are either in "hurry up" or "catch up" mode - You consistently forget things and misplace things - You ran out of patience a long time ago - You take pride in how much you can do - You consider multi-tasking an art form - You promise yourself that, when life slows down, you will take time to do things you always wanted to do - You make promises you don't keep
If You Are Not Ready, Don't StartWritten by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD
There are times when we feel we should take action, but feel stuck or unsure. Action does assist with moving forward, but first question to ask is "Am I ready?". We might be willing and able, but if we are not ready we will have a false start. We will sabotage ourselves.
Being ready is about commitment. Being ready is also a mindset. At times we have to be pretty fed up before we are really ready to make a change. A friend recently quit her job after months of being miserable. She was willing and able, but for some reason she could not let go of what she called "the job from hell." The last straw for her was being demoted and having her salary cut. This action by company moved her to being ready. As humans we can put up with a whole lot. We tolerate and tolerate until finally we are pushed to point of being ready. It does seem pretty common that becoming ready often happens after we are totally fed up. There is a way to become ready without being pushed over edge. One question I like to ask myself is "What is worst thing that can happen?". Once I have answer, next question is "And can I live with that?". If answer is yes, then chances are you are ready to make your move. If you are still not sure - begin seeking other options. Keep working on those two questions until you come up with a solution that you can live with.