Dump Those Negative Tapes

Written by Virginia Bola, PsyD


Every time something doesn't go quite right (rather frequently for some of us), we start berating ourselves. We can berepparttar soul of courtesy and forgiveness to those we care about and then turn and savage ourselves inrepparttar 137403 most brutal fashion. How many times have you told yourself: "I'm an absolute idiot!" What was I thinking?" And that is justrepparttar 137404 start.

From those immediate negative self-assessments, we dive deeper, reinforced by old admonitions playing in our brain. We may be adults, our parents and teachers perhaps long deceased, but their deprecating, wounding, critical, even, at times, cruel or abusive, remarks play over and over as if we were still children, being scolded for "our own good."

Withrepparttar 137405 help of those judgmental tapes playing repetitively inrepparttar 137406 back of our minds, we easily move from annoyance at a simple mistake anyone could have made to a global view of our own ineptitude: "I always blow it . . . I can't do anything right . . . Why am I such a failure?"

Why is it so much harder to forgive ourselves than to forgive those we love? Is it because we don't love ourselves as much? Is it because we expect more of ourselves? Or is it that we know ourselves too well, painfully aware of our dark secret places and our internal shortcomings? We are hard on ourselves because we have a deep, subconscious, lifelong belief that we don't quite measure up.

The maggot gnawing away at our core is made up of a long string of events starting when we first became aware ofrepparttar 137407 world and began to hearrepparttar 137408 word "No!" It continued through a childhood of making mistake after mistake, as we all do when learning new skills, and through adulthood as we are judged by our bosses, our spouses, our customers, withrepparttar 137409 heaviest emotional jolt of being laid off,repparttar 137410 ultimate rejection of our self-worth.

Psychologists have studied authority-child interactions in bothrepparttar 137411 home and in school. Remarkably, feedback torepparttar 137412 child, in both environments, is more than 70% negative withrepparttar 137413 remainder either neutral or positive. Is it any wonder that we grow up to view ourselves as not quite good enough, mess-ups, or even total failures?

We have internalized all of that destructive feedback and facerepparttar 137414 world with pride and self-composure that we know is only a defensive fašade, constantly in peril of crumbling away.

Nettles The Needles Sting

Written by Judi Singleton


Spring is a time of rebirthrepparttar plants all put on new green overcoats andrepparttar 137341 babies are born torepparttar 137342 animals. As I road along today out inrepparttar 137343 country seeing, colts, calves, and lambs it reminded me that now isrepparttar 137344 time to plantrepparttar 137345 new seeds of intention for my life. Now isrepparttar 137346 time to plant seeds of intentions and actions in your life. You can energetically transform right alongsiderepparttar 137347 growth ofrepparttar 137348 plants andrepparttar 137349 birth of new life. While I was out on my adventure inrepparttar 137350 country today I saw one ofrepparttar 137351 wonderous plants all around me sprout their new greenery. One of these wasrepparttar 137352 nettle which is a plant I love it is wonderful for making herbal vinegar. It is easy to identify. The jagged leaves held in pairs alongrepparttar 137353 square stems are easily recognisable particularly after having experiencedrepparttar 137354 sting. The nettle sting, will wear off in a few hours. Nature always provides a natural remedy close at hand. The leaves ofrepparttar 137355 dock contain chemicals that neutraliserepparttar 137356 sting and also coolrepparttar 137357 skin. The nettles sting is actually used as a treatment for arthritic joints!

Where didrepparttar 137358 nettle get its name? Problably from thatrepparttar 137359 'nettle' is derived from Noedl meaning a needle - referringrepparttar 137360 needle like sting.

Because very few grazing animals will touch nettle because ofrepparttar 137361 sting it is a great place for butterflies to raise their young. One will findrepparttar 137362 small tortoiseshell and peacock butterfly larvae which feed in large groups hidden in silken tents atrepparttar 137363 top ofrepparttar 137364 nettle stems. In late summerrepparttar 137365 huge quantity of seed produced provide a food source for many of our seed eating birds. Not only insects and birds are benefited by nettles but when dried into hay horses and cows feed on it. In Sweden nettles is raised for dairy cows it increases milk production. Horse breeder feed it because it is so good forrepparttar 137366 horses coat. If you are wondering why anyone would eat nettles having experienced their sting,repparttar 137367 sting goes away with cooking. You can enjoy nettle leaves in soup, steam them when they are young and picked before they flower just like spinach or kale. Nettles are reportedly high in calcium, iron, magnesium, chromium, potassium, and zinc, as well as vitamins A, B, C, D and K. Nettles are said to nourishrepparttar 137368 adrenal glands, and are also rich in carotene. You can preserverepparttar 137369 nettles for winter several ways. Nettle vinegar can be made by soaking fresh herbs in white vinegar. The vinegar leachesrepparttar 137370 calcium and other minerals out ofrepparttar 137371 nettles, and then you can sprinklerepparttar 137372 vinegar on salads, veggies, stir fry. Purple nettles will tintrepparttar 137373 vinegar a nice rose hue. You can use nettles in any recipe calling for spinach. Userepparttar 137374 leftover water as a hair rinse. For centuries, nettles have been used for medicinal purposes. They have beneficial influence on various body systems, includingrepparttar 137375 lungs, kidneys, skin, and blood. The herb has been recognized for its ability to stop bleeding, relieve mucous congestion and water retention, and improve skin irritations. It is considered to be an excellent blood purifier. Try some of these interesting Nettles recipes: Pasta with Nettles and Parmesan

3-4 cups fresh nettles

3 Tablespoons olive oil

3-4 cloves garlic, thinly sliced

1 small hot red pepper

1 pound pasta (traditionally penne, pennette, or rigatoni)

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