People respond to their unemployed status in a number of ways. Some are optimistic, picking themselves up, brushing themselves off, and aggressively beginning their campaign for a new position. Others spend some time licking their wounds and rehashing details and downfall of their department before they find courage to go back out into world of work. Still there are others who become completely paralyzed by fear and anguish. Is there a right way to react to sudden loss of your social and financial security?

Let’s talk about optimist. He looks at his pink slip and sees a ticket to a new and exciting future. His glass is half-full, never half-empty. He reassesses his wants and desires and broadens his search to include opportunities in other fields of interest. He goes on a number of interesting interviews and soon lands a new job with a great company. And good news is that he terminates his unemployment long before unemployment terminates him and he never once touched his severance package. Mr. Optimism soon discovers that he doesn’t have authority he thought he had and when he tries to discuss matter with his director, he is met with evasiveness and ambiguity. To him, this hazy environment begins to feel much like one that preceded his previous employer’s reorganization and subsequent mass layoff. But it’s not old company – it’s a new one. Mr. Optimism overreacts one time too many and within a couple of months is unemployed, again.

Then there are Wound-Lickers. They are hurt and they know it. They were devoted to their employer and they fully embraced organization’s corporate culture. Interviewers are put off by their single-mindedness and tears that well up in their eyes. Without their position, they are lost – and they don’t hide it very well. Friends and family members who were so eager to listen during those first couple of weeks, now avoid them at all costs. Desperate for a sympathetic ear, Wound-Lickers pull out old department roster and begin calling each other to commiserate and renew their negative energy. Most pull themselves up their bootstraps and get on with life at some point. But a few, sink a dangerous low.

If you talk to a scientist, you’ll hear that meeting someone is just a matter of numbers. If you can raise your exposure to a greater number of potential candidates, then you raise likelihood of cupid’s arrow hitting mark. Well, most single people I know are surrounded by thousands of people everyday at grocery store, at office, in airports, at gym, etc., etc., but they haven’t met person that pulls their heartstrings.

Maybe you have tried singles mixers, speed dating at local sports pub, or even resorted to having your friends set you up with eligible singles. And what if all that turns up zero? Then maybe it’s time to see if your house, your office, or your business could be undermining your efforts to gain a suitable partner in love. So, what exactly are key elements for singles to look for when determining if energy of their space is killing their romantic prospects? You are about to find out. Now, get ready to make a serious assessment of your space to open your life to a new love!

1. Is a “man” or a “woman” missing in your life? You could be without a special someone because you are missing a NW or SW corner! Every space must have a NW and a SW corner. These are cornerstones of a space, and in feng shui thought, two most important sectors. The NW corresponds to a man and SW corresponds to a woman. So, if you are a single woman, you need to activate your NW sector, or a single man, SW sector. By same token, both single men and women need to activate SW sector because it is also sector of marriage, romance, and relationships.

If your NW or SW corners are missing, or afflicted by a toilet, kitchen, storeroom, etc., then you begin to see what problem is. How do you correct this? If you are extremely serious about finding someone, then moving might be an option. However, less drastic measures are also available. Use these tips to guide you.

•If NW or SW corner is missing: Place a mirror on wall where NW corner should be so that it visually expands. Outside, where missing corner is, try to delineate this space with a light pole, a heavy rock or object, or create a fenced area or garden to put back this missing area.

•If NW/SW corner has a toilet: Make sure this room has a mirror in it. Keep door closed. You can also try following remedies of placing a heavy rock in NW toilet, and candles and red objects in SW toilet. DO NOT make mistake of putting candles or red objects in NW or a stone in SW because this will make things much, much worse!

•If NW/SW has a kitchen: In NW, this is a very bad placement. Kitchens in NW are not good. You can try to add stones here, such as geodes, or whatever strikes your fancy. You can also paint this room a beige color. This will help strengthen NW energy with earth element of beige color. Avoid water or fire elements in NW kitchen as these hurt precious NW energy.

In SW, add pairs of objects here, such as setting a place for two at table, even if there is only one dining! You can also had a stone object here or paint kitchen beige to add more “earth” energy.

2.Tap your personal marriage and romance direction. Orient bed or sleep with your head pointing in your marriage and family direction based on your kua number. Move your desk to face this direction (although, you should make sure you do not ever have your back to door). Eat facing this direction, and enter doors from this direction.

Here are orientations for both men and women:

NumberOrientation 1South 2Northwest 3Southeast 4East 5Northwest (male) West (female) 6Southwest 7Northeastearth/fire 8West 9North

Besides using doors according to your kua number, sitting, eating, and sleeping, you will also want to energize corresponding areas in your living room.