Don't SettleWritten by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD
Settling is about not embracing what is best for you, and accepting what you really don't want. When you settle, you accept less than you deserve. Settling becomes a habit and a way of life, but it doesn't have to be. According to Maureen Dowd, "The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for!” People settle every day in every way. They settle for unsatisfying jobs, boring lives, and stale relationships. People settle in part because they don't realize they can have better, or even that they deserve better. People also settle because of fear. Fear holds us back from embracing what we really want. According to Bo Bennett, "Every day, people settle for less than they deserve. They are only partially living, or at best living a partial life. Every human being has potential for greatness.”
The only way to truly embrace your greatness is to stop settling. You have to stop settling for a job that isn't challenging, a life that isn't fulfilling, and relationships that are uninspiring. Life is way too short to settle.
Don't Be Jealous - Be InspiredWritten by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD
When we see people do things we cannot do, or have things we don't have, it might be tempting to be a little jealous. But, jealousy doesn't lead to anything except resentment, and that isn't going to help you. Instead of being jealous of others, focus on being inspired. Let success of others move you forward toward your own success. After all, people who are doing things you want to do or have things you want are examples of what is possible for you.
When I see people doing things I want to do, I become inspired. After all, if one person can do it, it can be done. Those people ahead of me are setting a great example of what is possible. I don't get jealous - I get inspired. I look at those who are doing what I want to do as trailblazers. I am thankful to them because they provide examples and paths to follow. It doesn't mean I have to do exactly what they do, but it gives me clues as to what works. I can still do success my own way, but it sure is great to have examples to reference.