Often we accept consensus opinion of majority as truth. We accept what others say or do as way things are. We accept things way they appear to be instead of taking action to make them way we want them to be. If you think "business is always slow in summer", "My manager never listens to me", "Nobody can find a good apartment fast in this market." These are false ideas you have accepted as truth. If you accept these "false truths" as fact you sabotages you ability to get what you want, you put up invisible roadblocks between you and your goals.

As you move through your life start to notice what "false truths" come out of your mouth. There may have been times when it seemed easier to come up with a "false truth" than create a solution. It may have been easier to say "there are no good jobs out there" than to go out and find one, easier to say "there is no way I could win that photo contest" than to enter. It is easier to say "she won't be interested in my product or service" than to approach your potential prospect. While it might seem easier in moment to accept "false truths", it doesn't move your life forward. That makes everything harder.

When you make a commitment to not accepting things way they are and you begin to take action, you knock down road blocks that have been holding you back you build self respect, self confidence and you create momentum for your life.

Ask yourself what you might be accepting as "it is just way it is?"

Some years ago I was sitting around a kitchen table one Saturday night with eight of my beautiful, successful, dynamic, single girlfriends. Somebody started complaining about fact that there's no straight single men in San Francisco, then someone else chimed in and another and another - it turned into a major Kvetching session and I started to get depressed.

I decided to not accept this "false truth" and instead I took action. I called a friend who was very proactive by nature. We placed a personal ad that said:

Renaissance Men Wanted Young, hot, successful, professional women interested in arts, music, politics, culture, looking to meet men for a cocktail party.

Last week I was making marketing calls with only two business days left for month and I had set a goal to have my best month ever. I decided to adopt an "Expect Success" attitude. I visualized each person on other end of phone anxiously waiting to hear from me. I made my calls with enthusiasm and purpose. There was no uncertain or apologetic tone to my voice; I spoke to each person with knowledge that my programs would benefit them and that they therefore were very interested in enrolling in my group their staff. After a short number of calls, I had scheduled more programs than I usually do in two weeks. This would never have happened if I hadn’t come from a place of expecting success when I started to make those calls.

What about that proposal you have been meaning to get out, that course you are thinking about taking, that person you want to approach at an event, that career change you want to make? What if you cast off all your scripts of self-doubt, fought off your recurring fears, disproved critic inside you—and instead gave your goal all you could because you knew success was your destiny? Begin all relationships with this attitude of success—when you introduce yourself to someone for first time, expect that they are glad to meet you. Then, when you call someone up on phone, expect that they are on other end waiting for your call; and when you ask for sale, expect they will say yes.

I got a call other day from a woman. Her failure expectancy was apparent; she was anxious on phone and gave me impression that she was already sure I would not be interested. In her own mind, she clearly expected to fail before she began call. Do you ever sound like that on phone?

When we call people or meet with them, we have to hold attitude that we are offering them an opportunity—an important opportunity, and maybe even perfect opportunity for them. If they do not go for it, that’s fine. Our responsibility to ourselves is to make offer. It doesn’t matter what thoughts and actions of other person are; it doesn’t matter whether they agree to what you are offering or not. What matters is that you go for what you want all time, every time, and are as proactive and confident as you would be if you knew you could not miss.