Do you have necessary attributes to be a successful secret services agent? Do you melt into background where no one can see you? Do you hide behind someone else? Would you describe yourself as having an incognito life? Are you capable of always putting yourself second? Do you constantly defer to another person? Do people see right through you and ignore you?

Then you have skills.

You see, as John Reilly, states in song he wrote for musical Chicago; you are no more than Mr. Cellophane man.

Mister cellophane Should have been my name !!!! Mister cellophane 'cause you can look right through me Walk right by me And never know I'm there!

The question is:

Are these skills you need to have an effective life? Are these skills that bring you fulfillment and happiness? Are these skills that show off your uniqueness and enable you to fulfill your role on this planet?

In our experience answer is, no.

So how do you avoid being Mr. Cellophane man?

Simple.

Start by changing your focus of yourself. Rather than look at what is wrong with you and what needs changing. Sit quietly with yourself for a moment and look at your qualities.

Ask yourself:

•What are my strengths?

If you are not sure, or cannot put your finger on your strengths

We enjoy using our minds to gather clues and solve problems of all kinds. Whether it's latest crime show on television, a news story, your company's top-secret product launch, or where you left your glasses, you are captivated by questions that have significance for you.

In fact, we can learn a great deal by becoming mindful of types of mysteries that fire up our brains. By using multiple intelligences theory as a framework, we can create greater awareness of areas that naturally appeal to us as playgrounds for mindfulness.

For example, if you find that you are frequently intrigued by dramas--gossip, soap operas, office politics, novels, or shows like "Survivor" or "The Bachelor"--pay attention to that. What it tells you is that you have a natural inclination to flex your interpersonal intelligence, or "people" smarts.

You seek clues to help you understand and anticipate motives, reactions, and choices of others. You have an ability to see personality traits clearly and recognize behavior patterns, and you apply this knowledge to new situations and characters.

All world is a stage to you, and you are fascinated by players and plots.

If you enjoy observing dramas, you might as well use them as triggers for mindfulness, right? So, for example, you could select a particular cue to notice and heighten your awareness of when, how, and why it appears.

If you choose a gesture like someone putting their hand on their forehead, you could use this as your secret prompt to pay attention to what follows immediately AFTER that. An exclamation of exhaustion? A self-critical statement? A swear word?