Do You Practice Active Decision Making?

Written by Martin Avis

Many years ago when I was young and callow, I received an invitation to attend a 'Decision-Makers' conference. Trouble was, I couldn't make up my mind whether to go or not. I didn't.

Asrepparttar French proverb says, "Between two stools, you sit onrepparttar 102047 floor."

Like a great many people before and after me, I had to learnrepparttar 102048 hard way to actively take control of my life. Prevarication is a poor master, but one that will rule you with a rod of iron if you don't chose to stop it.

Banish from your mind and your vocabularyrepparttar 102049 words, 'I'll think about it.' You won't. Something else will take your eye and divert your attention. Unless you make a positive decision to do or not to do, right now, you are very unlikely to revisit.

Nobody ever became a success by hesitating. Success comes to those who jump in and have a go.

I am not by any means suggesting that you should embrace every hare-brained scheme or half-baked idea that you come across. Far from it. What I am saying is that you must developrepparttar 102050 skill to actively decide what to do in any given situation and not leaverepparttar 102051 result to chance.

For example, I get about 200 emails a day. Whenever I go to my inbox I have to make quick choices about allrepparttar 102052 emails waiting to get my attention:

Send it straight to trash Save it in a pending file Read it immediately Forward it to someone else Act on its contents

There may be other choices, butrepparttar 102053 point is made. If I don't actively decide between these options I would very quickly get an inbox so full that I would never getrepparttar 102054 chance to act on any of them.

Life and business is very much like that. In this twenty-first century we live in, only those who have masteredrepparttar 102055 art of 'keeping up' can survive and thrive. There is no room for procrastination.

Very oftenrepparttar 102056 only decision you need to make is whether to act or not. Once you have made that positive commitment to yourself,repparttar 102057 'putting into action' part ofrepparttar 102058 equation follows naturally.

Don't over analyze.

Often,repparttar 102059 biggest hurdle to cross in reaching a decision one way orrepparttar 102060 other isrepparttar 102061 fear that you haven't considered allrepparttar 102062 options. Forget it! Unless you are being forced to decide something completely outside your field of experience you already have allrepparttar 102063 information you need. Your brain has spent years sucking in data from all overrepparttar 102064 place. Let that incredibly complex computer weighrepparttar 102065 options for you inrepparttar 102066 background. Your subconscious moves much faster than your conscious thought processes.

Reframing Rejection

Written by Peter Murphy

Fear of rejection is one ofrepparttar greatest fears shared by all human beings. Nobody wants to feel left out, unwanted or unliked. And atrepparttar 102046 same time what we really want is to be loved and accepted by everyone - that would be bliss. It will never happen though because we all have biases,opinions and beliefs that colorrepparttar 102047 way we look atrepparttar 102048 world.

So people will reject us no matter how good we look, no matter how successful we are, and no matter how giving we are. If we were to become even nicer, and even more spiritually aware they would still reject us so it is a pointless battle trying to win over everyone.

However we can change how we think about rejection. If we changerepparttar 102049 meaning of rejection it can become our ally instead of our enemy. Next time someone rejects you why not take it as feedback instead. That is, your approach did not work and you need to try a new approach. In sales,repparttar 102050 salesperson must view rejection as feedback or else she will slowly go insane!

So let us view rejection as feedback. When you are rejected immediately set your mindrepparttar 102051 task of intelligently answering this question - how must I change my approach to get what I want? By doing this, you shift your attention back to what you can do and offrepparttar 102052 other person whose approval is theirs to give or not to give.

Let us takerepparttar 102053 example of asking someone to help you with a project at work, you are afraid to ask for help so when you do, your coworker can almost smell this fear of rejection coming from you. So he says No, he is far to busy to help you today. Now immediately ask yourselfrepparttar 102054 feedback reframe question - how must I change my approach to get what I want?

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