As philosopher once said, “Life is just one darned thing after another.” But for some, that procession of one thing to another leads to success, and for others, that same procession leads to dissatisfaction and feelings of failure. Why do some succeed and others fail? More importantly, how can you be one who succeeds?

Well let me ask you this: Who is most important person in world? Say, “I am.” And if you don’t believe that, consider this—How you value yourself is critical determinant of everything that happens in your life. Your success starts here, inside your head, with how you see yourself and your worth. But that’s just start.

In this article, I am going to share with you three of most crucial elements you must internalize and express in your daily life to be successful. And when I say successful, make no mistake. I mean successful in all things, because true success does not stay contained within one area of your life. Integrate what I’m about to teach you into your daily activities and I guarantee you that success will come, and it will envelop you entirely. How do I know this? Because these three elements are not quick fix strategies or emotional band-aids designed to hide your wounds—they involve hard work and dedication, and they are three elements consistently proven effective by scientific research, interviews with world’s most successful people, and my consistent life experience.

What is Most Important Part of This Article?

The most important part of this article is what you do afterwards. It’s not what I write, it’s not what you read, it’s not how excited or empowered you feel as you learn these three elements. The only thing that matters is what you do after you read this. I’m going to give you a simple truth:

He who acts fastest has best chance of winning.

Napoleon Hill, famed author of "Think and Grow Rich," spent his life researching five hundred of most successful people in America, and he found that there existed only one identifiable characteristic that each of them shared: Action Orientation. This leads us to first of Three Crucial Elements:

Proactivity

Would people consider you ambitious? Do you take initiative in a situation? If so, you possess first element of success: Proactivity. The difference between proactive people and reactive people is astronomical. Proactive people experience a 5000% difference in their results as opposed to reactive people. Why is this? Because proactive people decide what they want, and then take actions necessary to make it happen. Reactive people wait for a situation to occur, and then react to it, relinquishing any power or control they may have had over their life experiences.

Title: Accessing Your Spiritual Guidance Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2003 by Margaret Paul Web Address: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 1128 Category: Self Help/Spirituality

ACCESSING YOUR SPIRITUAL GUIDANCE By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

For last 35 years, I have been working with individuals, couples and families, as well as business relationships. I have 8 published books on relationships and healing, some of them best-sellers. In first half of my career, I worked as a traditional psychotherapist, and was not happy with results. In last 18 years I have worked with a process called Inner Bonding, which is a powerful six step psychological and spiritual healing process. I discovered that there is no real healing without a personal connection with a source of spiritual guidance.

Everyone in recovery - whether from alcohol, drugs, food, spending, gambling, sex, TV, codependency, or any other addiction - knows that they cannot heal without a connection with their Higher Power, yet for many, this connection is illusive. It is a common experience for me to work with people who have been in Twelve Steps for years yet still don't have a direct, personal experience of their Higher Power. All of us want a direct line to our spiritual Guidance. We need this help in maintaining abstinence and taking responsibility for ourselves. We want to know what is in our highest good, what is right decision in different situations, how to set appropriate boundaries, and how to manifest what we want.

It is birthright of each of us to have a direct line to God, whatever God is for you. Yet few of us have learned how to do this at will on a daily basis. Surprisingly however, it is not hard to do.

The spiritual realm exists at a higher frequency than we do here on physical plane of Planet Earth. In order to access spiritual realm, we need to know how to raise our "frequency".

One way to understand "frequency" is to imagine a room filled with people who are sharing love and joy with each other. This room has a feeling of lightness--a high frequency--whereas a room filled with angry, tense people has a feeling of heaviness--a low frequency.

So, how do we raise our frequency? There are numerous things you can do to help yourself raise your frequency, but none of them will work unless you have intent to learn with Spirit about loving yourself and others. Our intent is most powerful tool we have for raising our frequency. There are only two possible intents in any given moment: to learn with God/Spirit about loving yourself and others, or to protect against your pain and avoid responsibility for your feelings. When our intent is to protect and avoid we seek to control - through our various addictions - our feelings, others' feelings and behavior, and outcome of things. When our intent is to learn, we seek to take responsibility for our own feelings and behavior by discovering what we may be thinking or doing that is unloving to ourselves and others, and what would be loving.