Many moons ago. Talking to people was something I avoided where possible.At
time, I did not know I was unconsciously setting myself up for failure. I kept making same mistakes without even noticing what I was doing wrong.
You may be doing same thing.
Here are three common mistakes together with tips on how to deal with them:
1. Judging Your Performance Against Unrealistic Standards
Be honest with yourself.
Accept that where you are now in terms of your communication skills is only your starting point - not your finishing point.
And assess your performance and your progress against your typical level of effectiveness. Not against some desired state of perfection or ultimate goal.
Goals are very important as a destination to aim for but do not use long term goals as a standard to judge your current performance against - that is a recipe for disillusionment and massive frustration.
I know. Because I tried it!
2. The Failure To Learn Each Day
As people we can be lazy. This means that a lack of follow through on our goals can go unnoticed. After all we can always catch up some other day.
This attitude will kill your dreams faster than you can spell failure.
When I started to make massive improvements in how I related to people I dedicated myself to becoming excellent.
Once I had proven strategies rest was easy. I just applied material each day. I improved each day because I made it a priority and because I committed to applying material.
