Do You Know You How To Model?Written by Jan Tincher
Did you know that if you model someone else's physiology -- their body language -- you'll experience new ways to think, feel, and act?You already experience different physiologies all day long. For instance, if you are angry, you stand a certain way. If you are concentrating on something, your posture is different than if you are just sitting around waiting for things to happen. If you are happy, you are standing differently than if you are sad, etc. If you would like to model someone else's physiology, and don't know where to start, tape a talk show, like Jay Leno or David Letterman or whatever, and model guest stars that you respect and admire. TIP: Before you model ANYONE, make sure you have chosen wisely. Sit as they do, talk as they do, walk as they do. If you like feeling of confidence you get as you model them, rewind VCR tape and watch it again and again. Do this preferably at night, just before you go to bed, so when you are done, your body and mind will *sleep* on it. The next morning, if you did it enough times and programmed it right, your body will unconsciously duplicate what you had modeled last night.
| | Choose a Life Mate, Don't Wait for a Soul MateWritten by Michelle L. Casto
Choose a Life Mate, Don’t Wait For a Soul Mate By Michelle L. Casto, M.Ed. This article is adapted from book Get Smart! About Modern Romantic Relationships: Your Personal Guide to Finding Right and Real LoveHave you ever wondered why all people who are seeking their soul mate end up disappointed and let down? I have found that it is possible that there is no such thing, at least in way most people think about it. I have also found that if you want to find “heaven on earth” with a special someone, you have to adjust your expectations to a more realistic, humanistic level. With all of talk about finding one’s soul mate, you might wonder why a more appropriate term is “Life Mates.” Because, in my belief, soul mates are all people we come into contact with whom we have unresolved business. In truth, soul mates could be family, friends, or colleagues. They do not have to be your significant other. Thanks to media and our human need for companionship, soul mate myth has been romanticized to unrealistic proportions and continues to keep us longing for that one “perfect person,” so much so that we are never satisfied with who we are with. Life Mates, on other hand, appreciate and love each other on a more humanistic level. Life Mates recognize each other’s spirits, but interact as human beings, realizing that while in human form, nothing or no one is perfect. They know that life on earth is about learning lessons. Life Mates learn, live, love, and evolve together, yet remain separate on their individual spiritual journey. Ultimately, finding your true Life Mate brings real love into your life, awakens your soul and makes it easier for you to learn lessons you are meant to learn. Before I met my own Life Mate four years ago, I too believed that there was only one perfect person for me in this entire world. For many years, I searched high and low trying to find my other half only to end up feeling frustrated and lonelier than ever. And then…. I met Philip—of course when I wasn’t looking---and we began dating. I did not feel an instant connection with him, a bolt of lightening did not strike me, nor did any other “sign” appear before my eyes telling me that he was one. Instead, we simply enjoyed each other’s company and started spending more time getting to know one another. After about six months, we woke up to realization that we wanted to be an exclusive couple. After a year and a half, we decided to move in together, next we bought a home, and finally adopted two wonderful dogs. My lovelife now is rich and wonderful, but it is because we chose each other and became committed to development of a real relationship. Had I continued to search for a perfect person, I would probably still be alone!
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