No?

Well, if you did know how, would it help you remember people's names? Would it stop you from being nervous, or at least help you control your thoughts so your thoughts don't make you nervous?

You Bet!

How about if you talk too much or too loud? Would focusing help you?

You Bet!

Would it help you remember where you left something? Or why you even walked into that room in first place?

You Bet!

Well, if focusing is such a benefit, why haven't you learned how? Too many reasons to go into, right?

Well, you've got time to read this now, you might as well learn while you're here. What do you say? Shall we do it?

OK! Here goes!

Step one: *Don't you just love it? I am so methodical.* Stand up straight. Take a deep breath and close your eyes.

*** Sidebar Now, some of us aren't in shape, so maybe we'll have to sit down for this. The rest of you, STAND. *** End of sidebar

Step two: Think of all wonderful things that have happened in your life.

*** Sidebar Remember, your mind does not know difference between real and vividly imagined. If you don't have any wonderful things that have happened to you, imagine wonderful things happening to you. *** End of sidebar

Step three: Imagine what it feels like to experience something you don't think you can handle.

Step four: Now, imagine yourself succeeding. Succeeding, regardless!

How do you stand when you're feeling that way? How do you look? How do you FEEL?

Step five: Now, on that feeling of exhilaration, feel calm that is also there. Stand or sit straighter and imagine a golden glow of light in shape of a funnel on top of your head. Feel that light as it courses through your body.

Step six: Take another deep breath. Now, hold that breath in. As you hold your breath in, feel your heart beat.

Step seven: In your mind, feel your heart beat in your left little finger.

*Or if you can't feel it there, feel it in your right elbow, or wherever. Anywhere besides your heart. Remember, whatever works, works.*

Usually, a best friend is supportive of you when you need it. If they disagree with something that you are doing, they are honest about it without being judgmental with you. And, they can still be supportive of you even when they are not sure that you are right.

A best friend loves you no matter what. They are accepting of what you look like. They understand your limitations, but love you anyway. If you fail at something they are there for you, to help you pick up pieces and try again.

A best friend never talks badly about you. They only want best for you!

You certainly are deserving of all of this in your life.