In principle, we don’t want to give up coaching employees. We want to believe that we can eventually make a difference. Sometimes it’s our own ego that drives our persistence and determination.

In reality, if we have followed coaching process, we have honored our stewardship as a coach. This is especially true if we have followed process for a significant period of time. However, coaches often make mistake of staking their pride and confidence as a coach on one or two challenging situations. This can be dangerous! It would be nice to believe that we have that much control over another human being. However, everyone has right to choose their own destiny. We can’t force change; we can’t even motivate someone else. But, we can clarify, explain, explore, highlight, recommend, and encourage. When coaching employees, we have to decide when to “back off,” and let situation either improve or deteriorate.

For years, CMOE has advised coaches to follow-up and be persistent a little longer than expected. Coaching employees takes patience – a lot of patience! But, don’t be unreasonable. If topic permits, allow some time for right decisions and actions to kick in. When dealing with policy, ethics, values, safety, or legal issues, explain timeline to coachee. We are not suggesting an ultimatum. Just explain time sensitivity and create a time boundary.

Check in frequently with coachee to see how they are doing, and remind them of timeframe. If there is insufficient responsiveness or progress, this may indicate a lack of judgment, character, integrity, or indifference. When these signals arise, do a quick reality check:

• Have you diagnosed situation?
• Have you tried all of coaching skills?
• Have you involved others in an appropriate way?

Maybe you should think about this question first…

What job are you doing now in your daily life? Do you ask people this question or are you one being asked?

If you are found hanging around at home every weekday, people will start asking:” You are not going to look for a job?” You will be blacklisted in their heart as “No determination or Lazy” until day you go to work, isn’t it?

It’s normal; everyone goes to work after finishing their college years in adult age. Many chose line they studied and some are not. This depends on your decision on who you want to be in future. Climbing corporate ladder to top is goal.

Working is part of our life. Everyone relies on that monthly paycheck for bills, expenses and leisure…etc. We’ve to go out to work to earn money. So sad thing is we are all becoming slave of money. Everyone works hard for it. Why? Because there’s a danger of being retrenched or fired and end up looking for jobs again to be out of that little circle of unemployed.