In Life Lessons, Elizabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler suggest that love is only gift in life that is not lost and is ultimately only thing we can really give. Start by loving yourself.

1.Love Yourself. To give love, you must have love. Too often we put conditions on love. Conditions on love weigh it down and keep us from loving completely.

·Be Compassionate With Yourself. Don’t judge, criticize or beat yourself up when you make a mistake. Cut yourself some slack.

·Nurture Your Soul. Do things that make you feel good about yourself and make you truly glad you did them. Let love in that’s all around. Schedule and budget for these nurturing activities; pick something that will make you feel great and do it!

·Remove Barriers. Let go of conditions you place on giving and receiving love. Give love freely with no thought of receiving love in return. Receive love with no conditions or self-criticism. Remember Beatles song lyric from The End, “… And in end, love you take is equal to love you make.”

2.Love What You Do. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, in Flow, Psychology of Optimal Experience, identifies eight major components of enjoying an activity. His studies on flow suggest an activity is enjoyable when at least one and often all eight components are present.

·Completion. We need tasks with sufficient complexity to challenge and stretch us to develop our skills but that won’t overwhelm us.

·Concentration. The root of concentrate means to “center”. We need tasks that allow us to wrap our mind around it and be challenged by it. Tasks that are too hard will overwhelm us; tasks that are too easy will bore us.

·Clear Goals. Stephen Covey tells us to begin with end in mind, to know what we’d like to accomplish. A clear goal gives us a specific outcome that our mind can use to discern if we are meeting test.

·Feedback. Feedback allows you to compare your outcome to your goal. It’s a symbolic message that allows you to create order in your consciousness and shift your efforts if your outcome is off course.