Their Bark Was Worse Than Their Bite!

When you shy away from doing something big, just because it's big, you miss a lot of opportunities. Many years ago when I first went into sales, I would shy away from approaching anyone that was in a big building. I have no idea what size of building had to do with it; it was just a fear of something "big."

Later on I realized that all those men in those big fancy buildings put their pants on just like I did, one leg at a time, and I had no reason to be afraid of them. But, still, I was as nervous as a long tail cat in a dark room full of rocking chairs.

So, what did do? I would look for little mom and pop establishments that would not intimidate me. At these small businesses is where I learned to neutralize my fears. And as time went along I realized that big businesses held a lot of opportunity.

The reason they did, was because I found out that other salesmen were also afraid to go in there. So, it created some very easy and fertile ground to make some substantial sales at. Ironically, sales resistance in large businesses is less than small ones because small ones are solicited all time.

At The End Of The Day!

When you allow fear to control your movements you make a lot of mistakes. Example: Fear has never done anything good for you. Now I'm not talking about common sense. It's not fear that keeps me from jumping off a ten story building or running in front of a speeding locomotive. It's good ole common horse sense.

When a decision is made from fear, you generally find there is no basis for fear. There is usually no dragon there about to eat you, no Indians on war-path about to scalp you, so there is just no basis for not doing what you are afraid of.

Most of time, reason we don't choose big task is because we don't know how to accomplish it. There is a saying that goes; "it's one thing to talk about bull fighting, it's another thing to get in ring with that bull."

Just Beat Around The Bush!

If you don't know how to fight that bull, you just better talk about it for awhile. Or, you better find a matador to teach you on a mechanical bull first. Maybe a baby one! :>)

Unfortunately, too many times we say yes to others when we should say no. At same time we continue to tell ourselves no when we need to say yes.

You deserve to create life of your dreams. Period. The first step on that road is to learn to tell yourself yes before you say yes to others.

One big reason so many people don't like their lives is because they accidentally created a life that's not based on what they want. How did that happen? Pretty easily and unconsciously.

If most of your life isn't how you thought it would turn out then you haven't figured out what you want to say yes to in your life. This doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you a typical twenty-first century human whose life is filled with distracting details and tasks. Random decisions lead us down random paths with random endings we don't want.

When you know what you want to say yes to then your life begins to change drastically. Why? Because anything that comes up that's not on your "Yes list" is an automatic no. How helpful is that? Very helpful.

This allows you to cut out time that gets wasted on activities you don't need to do. For example lets pretend Grace's yes list includes things like reading, having a clean house, taking care of her kids, exercising, being healthy, enjoying her job, and connecting with her friends.