Divorce Makes Us Stronger

Written by Debbie Burgin

My friends call merepparttar "Divorce Poster Child".

Atrepparttar 147764 age of 20 I was married, and by 22 I had our first child. My husband was away at work every weekday, so it was just myself andrepparttar 147765 baby, keeping each other company from seven inrepparttar 147766 morning, until five thirty inrepparttar 147767 evening, every weekday. Eventually (7 years later), my husband and I found ourselves with three children, and life was extremely hectic, with both of us now working inrepparttar 147768 same industry. We worked forrepparttar 147769 same company (his company), and he was still away at work every day, while I managed to work from home for his company, and took care ofrepparttar 147770 house andrepparttar 147771 kids.

We worked apart, as do most couples, forrepparttar 147772 duration of our marriage, and our relationship got torepparttar 147773 point where, when we were together, we had very little to talk about besidesrepparttar 147774 kids, and work. Eventually, there was even less to talk about, because it would seem that my ex-husband to be, was getting more and more distant. I sensedrepparttar 147775 distance, and sat him down and hadrepparttar 147776 following conversation with him, "If you're feeling like you want to be a single man, and you want to be doingrepparttar 147777 things that your single friends do, please do me a favor; don't go behind my back, and sneak around because you want to be with someone else. Don't let me do all ofrepparttar 147778 detective work that I see those poor women on T.V. having to go through before finding out that their husbands are cheating on them. You know me better than that. If that's what you want, then go. Let's cut our losses now, and do it amicably." To which he replied, "I would NEVER do that! I don't want to be single. I love you guys. What would make you say that??"

Apparently, at aboutrepparttar 147779 same time that we had that conversation, my ex-husband was slowly and quietly developing younger woman syndrome, and eventually decided that he actually would rather be a single man (andrepparttar 147780 detective work that I mentioned in our conversation? I did it all). So, to make a very long story, somewhat shorter, I wasn't about to leaverepparttar 147781 home that I raised my children in, so I told him, "There'srepparttar 147782 door. See ya!" (That'srepparttar 147783 Coles' notes version.)

We've been divorced for four and a half years now. I went through many phases. The first was definitely blinding anger, followed closely (actually overlapped) by betrayal, which came before overwhelming sadness and feelings of failure, which were replaced by apprehension. Apprehension stepped aside to welcome self-pity. Major self pity. But self-pity was quickly replaced by revenge. I went on a spending spree, maxxing out his credit card twice (he was not happy, but oh well ). Each stage came with it's own set of ups and downs. I was beset by everything from uncontrollable crying, to unexplainable joy, to periods of quiet reflection.

Faith Building 101A

Written by Arthur Levine


Let Your Family and Friends Know That You Are A Person of Faith.

If you are like my Magic Genie friend Gloriious and I, you may be shy about telling those you love and care about that you are a person of faith. You may be afraid to let your true feelings show. You may need to learn how to build your faith.

Don’t Be Afraid. Unlock Your Imagination and Find Your Faith.

Get rid of your inhibitions and allow your true feelings and emotions to take hold. You may be surprised to discover that you are in fact a person of Faith. You may be amazed to find out how much faith you really have. You might discover your own personal Magic Genie to help you make your wishes come true. Use your imagination. Get Motivated.

You Are Entitled to Declare Yourself a Person of Faith.

When you unlock your imagination and get rid of your inhibitions you will soon discover that you are a good and worthwhile person who is entitled to declare yourself a person of faith. You are entitled to feel good about yourself. You are entitled to find your faith in God. The Almighty has genetically predisposed you to want to have faith. It is as natural an instinct as your will to survive. Learn to express yourself.

Express Your Faith to Validate and Acknowledge It.

Once you recognize that you are a person of faith, you can acknowledge your newfound faith, and validate it to others by making an Expression of Faith; an Expression that represents what you personally believe. You can memorialize your feelings of faith.

There Is More Than One Way For You To Find Your Faith.

It doesn’t matter what your particular religious beliefs are. You are entitled to believe in God any way you choose. That’s why God gave usrepparttar right to make choices. You have a right to believe in God and to declare yourself a person of Faith. You haverepparttar 147664 right to express yourself. You have a right to follow your own path to God.

Taking Little Leaps Can Help You Build Your Faith.

You can take small steps or ‘little leaps’ of faith that can help you build your faith. You can start to discover that these ‘little leaps’ arerepparttar 147665 Magical Keys to finding your Faith. Couldn’t you use a little magic in your life right now? Don’t you want to know how to cope withrepparttar 147666 troubles of our time? Wouldn’t you like to be more successful?

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