Divorce--When "Forever" Is Just Too Long

Written by Larry Denton

Are you unhappy with your spouse and your marriage? Are you seriously thinking about divorce? No matter how you deal with it, divorce is a messy process. When two people, who have taken a vow to stay together forever, decide that forever is much too long, hurt feelings, resentment and bitterness are to be expected. The first step is to remember that you are notrepparttar first couple to have marital problems--even Adam and Eve had some severe set backs.

According to U. S. government statistics, one out of every two marriages will end in divorce or annulment. Many problems can lead torepparttar 122006 decision to divorce. Personal selfishness, adultery, disrespect of a spouse, inattentiveness inrepparttar 122007 relationship, being argumentative, dishonesty, money issues, or difficulties in raisingrepparttar 122008 children-- all can berepparttar 122009 catalyst which sparks a desire for separation.

It is possible thatrepparttar 122010 seeds of divorce are sown even before a couple says "I do." Research shows that certain relationship skills, or lack of them, can help predict whether people are headed for happiness or a difficult dissolution. Research by Mari L. Clements, an assistant professor of clinical psychology atrepparttar 122011 Fuller Theological Institute in Pasadena, CA shows that "The ones who stayed happily married were likely to handle conflict constructively. Even inrepparttar 122012 midst of a difficult issue in their relationship, they were likely to treat each other with respect."

Grounds for divorce vary from couple to couple and from state to state. Marriage, realistically, is as much a legal contract as it is a personal relationship. Most states now offer some form of uncontested (no-fault) divorces which are popular because they are easy and inexpensive. There is no single reason for divorce. Sometimes, couples simply grow apart.

No matter whatrepparttar 122013 cause of divorce,repparttar 122014 key to a successful divorce is communication. This means removing your emotions. Many times, couples facing divorce allow their emotions rather than logic to dictate their discussions and their decisions. Think of divorce as a lesson in patience and endurance. The biggest divorce settlement tip--focus onrepparttar 122015 long-term outcome, notrepparttar 122016 small-time details. "Who gets Grandma's tea service?", is not nearly as important as "how do we raise our children?"

Menís Wedding Rings - Should a Man Wear One or Not?

Written by Peter Crump

Strange as it may seemrepparttar use of a wedding ring by men was not common until recently. Whereas women have worn wedding rings for eons, men have not. The use of rings as a symbol of everlasting love enshrined in marriage can be traced back thousands of years. But not so much for men.

It was, in fact, duringrepparttar 122005 second world war thatrepparttar 122006 use of wedding rings by men became more common. (Note that mens wedding rings and menís wedding bands are interchangeable, both meaningrepparttar 122007 same thing.)

It becamerepparttar 122008 custom for US soldiers going to war to publicise their marital status byrepparttar 122009 wearing of a manís wedding ring. They were happy to make public their commitment to their wife byrepparttar 122010 wearing of a public symbol that declared that commitment to all. Given that this habit of wearing menís wedding bands was reasonably new it was allrepparttar 122011 more creditable that these men were willing to foregorepparttar 122012 marital obscurity available to them from not wearing a ring and actively chose to make a public statement about their choice.

Menís wedding rings have become increasingly more common since that time. Today it is probably as common for a newly married man to wear a ring as not. This may be due to several factors. The modern man may consider it his duty to choose to makerepparttar 122013 same public marital statement as his wife will. And his wife may well consider it a condition ofrepparttar 122014 marriage that he do so. After all, in these days of equality, if she is prepared to make a statement then should he not do so as well?

Despiterepparttar 122015 fact thatrepparttar 122016 wearing of a ring by a woman is a matter of choice, it is in fact almost obligatory due torepparttar 122017 fact that it is so common. Many women do not even considerrepparttar 122018 possibility of not wearing one. Often, however, a man usually considersrepparttar 122019 wearing of a man wedding ring very carefully.

There are a number of issues to consider. Firstly, is he concerned about a public display of his marital status? Some men, whether rightly or wrongly, are threatened by this. Others are not inrepparttar 122020 least concerned.

Secondly whilstrepparttar 122021 wearing of jewellery by women is so common as to go unremarked that is not necessarilyrepparttar 122022 case for men. For many menrepparttar 122023 wearing of mens wedding bands is just a case of being asked to wear jewellery. Men often do not feel comfortable wearing jewellery and in many cases have never done so before. Whilst some men see their wedding band as different to wearing ordinary jewellery, others feel justrepparttar 122024 same as if they were being asked to wear ear rings. ďItís just not done by menĒ. The author, for example, wears a man wedding band, but would never consider wearing any other form of jewellery.

And as many men have never worn any form of jewellery before they have no idea what it will feel like to have something permanently onrepparttar 122025 finger. Is it heavy? Does it rub? Silly as it may seem to women this can be of concern to some men.

(If this genuinely is of concern it is quite possible to find a cheap jewellery shop, buyrepparttar 122026 cheapest ring available and wear it for a while. See exactly what it feels like. And find out your size atrepparttar 122027 same time.)

Menís wedding rings are, inrepparttar 122028 eyes of some men, effeminate. ďReal menĒ donít wear rings or jewellery at all. This is becoming less of an issue asrepparttar 122029 wearing of a manís wedding ring becomes more common, but is still an issue with many men.

Culture is also a consideration. In many culturesrepparttar 122030 wearing of wedding rings by men would never be considered. Men must think about how their particular culture, and also their religion, would viewrepparttar 122031 wearing of a wedding band.

There are also practical considerations. Many men are engaged in trades whererepparttar 122032 wearing of a man wedding band would be downright dangerous. Although unlikely it is quite possible for a ring to get caught in machinery. In some jobs a ring cannot be worn onrepparttar 122033 job, and must be removed. This can also apply to women.

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