Divorce: Coping With The Family Law Process

Written by Charles M. Goldstein

The Emotions

Divorce is a scary, lonely and misunderstood process for most people, particularly when there are children involved. The mutual friends enjoyed duringrepparttar marriage may not be of help because those individuals may not want to "pick a side." A divorce will introduce you to an entirely new balancing act.

The Effect on Productivity at Work

You must be conscious of howrepparttar 119274 divorce process affects your ability to function on your job. There may be occasions when you will feel overwhelmed by a typical day's workload. On such occasions, you may wish to apportion work in terms of what you can handle.

You may at times find yourself uncharacteristically testy and acerbic to friends and colleagues, uncommunicative, depressed, and distracted. You should try to be alert to these personality and mood changes and work with a counselor to solve them. At times this may involve temporarily modifying project responsibilities or adjusting assignments until you achieve a level of equanimity. On still other days, you may not be able to cope withrepparttar 119275 workplace or home environment at all, no matter how lightrepparttar 119276 workload. When this happens, it may be prudent to request a brief personal leave. If your behavior and interaction cannot be altered through temporary changes, you may need to seek professional counseling during this stressful period.

Keep in mind that while going through a divorce you will face numerous demands on your time: meetings with an attorney, accountant and counselor, possibly locating a new residence (and furnishing it) and establishing new lines of credit. Plan ahead where possible for these contingencies by asking your employer for projects that do not have a tight deadline. Flexible working arrangements, such as job-sharing, orrepparttar 119277 opportunity to compensate for lost time by working inrepparttar 119278 evening or on weekends, are other possibilities.

You should not let others treat you as an emotional cripple. You are probably already experiencing feelings of helplessness and an inability to control your life. By being overprotective and shielding you fromrepparttar 119279 daily realities ofrepparttar 119280 workplace or running interference with fellow employees or clients,repparttar 119281 employer may only exacerbate those feelings. Work may berepparttar 119282 only place you can achieve a sense of self-worth and personal strength during this difficult period.

The Process

Some people winding their way throughrepparttar 119283 divorce process may experience fatalistic or, conversely, unreasonably hopeful feelings, and may rely on divorce process myths that further complicaterepparttar 119284 situation (for example, a belief thatrepparttar 119285 system is entirely gender biased). Unfortunately,repparttar 119286 legal process is not designed to address emotional issues forrepparttar 119287 participants. Although there are milestones, such as filingrepparttar 119288 initial documents, there are no true emotional releases. Evenrepparttar 119289 finalizing of a divorce is a bittersweet experience and is likely to feel like a letdown. No one truly wins in a divorce becauserepparttar 119290 estate is always divided and both individuals have fewer assets than prior torepparttar 119291 divorce. Unfortunately,repparttar 119292 legal process is often one of attrition. The time and expense ofrepparttar 119293 legal process often dictatesrepparttar 119294 results as one ofrepparttar 119295 parties can no longer affordrepparttar 119296 resources orrepparttar 119297 time to continue to dispute issues.

The many difficult aspects ofrepparttar 119298 legal process often cause frustration and result in increased anger and hurt. In combination withrepparttar 119299 plethora of negative emotions which led torepparttar 119300 divorce inrepparttar 119301 first place, one facing a divorce may turn to revenge as a primary motivation and extendrepparttar 119302 divorce proceeding to hurtrepparttar 119303 other spouse. Onrepparttar 119304 other hand, a spouse may prolongrepparttar 119305 divorce process inrepparttar 119306 hope that reconciliation might occur.

Arraignment in New York Criminal Courts

Written by Susan Chana Lask, Esq.

www.appellate-brief.com The “arraignment” process involves: - Being brought before a Judge inrepparttar courtroom - Receivingrepparttar 119273 “ criminal complaint” withrepparttar 119274 crimes charged andrepparttar 119275 factual basis to each charge - The District Attorney requesting bail or releasing you on your own recognizance (called "ROR") - Pleading guilty or not guilty The process starts whenrepparttar 119276 court officer brings you fromrepparttar 119277 cell inrepparttar 119278 back ofrepparttar 119279 courtroom and intorepparttar 119280 courtroom beforerepparttar 119281 Judge. If you were unable to contact your family, friends or an attorney when you were arrested then most likelyrepparttar 119282 court will have a Legal Aid attorney appear for you. Legal Aid attorneys are inrepparttar 119283 courtroom at all times to defendrepparttar 119284 poor, and most times to appear forrepparttar 119285 unrepresented. Usually there will be about three attorneys fromrepparttar 119286 District Attorney’s office inrepparttar 119287 courtroom. One of them will readrepparttar 119288 charges against you and requestrepparttar 119289 court to impose bail at a certain amount or no bail. If no bail is demanded byrepparttar 119290 District Attorney then you will hearrepparttar 119291 word "ROR", which means "return on your own recognizance". Bail is determined according torepparttar 119292 crime and your personal information. At arraignmentrepparttar 119293 District Attorney will have your personal information obtained from their computer searches on you. They call this your “ rap sheet”. It will include information about you, such as: - Any Prior convictions - Any arrests at anytime - Any pleas to prior arrests - Parole - Probation If your rap sheet is clear of any crimes and this is your first arrest, chances are good that there will be no bail set against you. But even if your rap sheet is clear, ifrepparttar 119294 crime you’re charged with is serious (such as involving a large amount of stolen money or violence), bail can be set against you. There are different factors affectingrepparttar 119295 setting of bail against you, and all are considered byrepparttar 119296 judge in a matter of minutes. Ifrepparttar 119297 District Attorney requests bail, your attorney should argue that: - You’re not a flight risk

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